I’d love some gentle but honest, constructive advice please
My partner and I have been together for 12 years, we are both early 30s. No kids. We have both, always had busy social lives, sometimes with other ‘couple’ friends and sometimes with our own individual groups. All good, no problems there. We both enjoy going out, having a few drinks, day trips etc albeit a few of my close friends don’t drink so my social life does not revolve around alcohol as much as his but, either way, we generally have no problem.
One thing that always really frustrates me though is my partners lack of drive when it comes to saving for a holiday. I love going on holiday, and with a healthy household income (and no child expenses) we can comfortably afford to go abroad twice a year.
In the last 5 months I have unfortunately had 2 miscarriages, the second of which (earlier this month) was particularly traumatic for reasons which I won’t go into. But there were complications.
My partner was so incredibly supportive throughout. When we thought I was having a miscarriage, he made it very clear that we both need a break and we could go on a long holiday together in May/june. I then suggested some dates, was ready to book and he tells me that he doesn’t have the money (we split the cost of everything, we don’t have joint finances and this works well for us).
My main annoyance though is that he always has the money for everything else. He follows a sport 3/4 times a month which involves travel, an expensive day of eating and drinking before coming back home. It’s easy to spend £2-300 per day on this alone as, having followed the sport with him on a couple of occasions I have too spent the same.
He is in every other way an excellent partner.
Would this annoy you? What would you suggest?