Partner has memory Box of his ex

[Bythecoast]

Help.

in a first relationship after the end of a long marriage. Have know the new man for 6 months and in a relationship for 4 months. He has told me he loves me and we spend a lot of time together. It feels very special and loving and committed already.

im in his house and have just found next to the bed a book of photos of him with his ex. And being a total idiot I then opened a drawer and found a collection of love notes, cards, sentimental things. That relationship ended perhaps 2 years ago. Is it a red flag that he is keeping hold of these things?

I am a sentimental person myself but I do not feel the need to hold onto all the sentimental stuff from my marriage so I’m finding it hard to understand why anyone else would. Should the past stay in the past?

It isn't about keepsakes, its where they are and why. They are not in a box somewhere separate. Do you all honestly think you would be OK with your partner having a picture of their ex and them next to their side of the bed? Even if you had only been going out a month that would be weird!
And yes I do find it odd someone wouldn't have had reason to go into a husband of 27yrs drawers! You chose to live together, not own furniture separately under one roof. Now and then surely you do laundry? Do you have furniture he isn't allowed to look in too? How odd!

Never been through my partner's personal artefacts, including a photo collection of holidays with their then partner. I have no demands or expectations that that should go in the bin or an old box. And sentimental stuff in a box accessible in a fire is probably the only stuff you actually give two hoots about.

However, I very much doubt I would store my old love letters next to my bedside. But sometimes people can be thoughtless idiots.

Why were you looking?

Why are you quoting the whole post to ask a basic question, @Nanny0gg?

You have a lift? I suppose every relationship has its ups and downs!

My mistake.