Fiance will be studying daily with a colleague he’s described as beautiful

[Greyrabbit24]

This has been making me feel really insecure and I suppose I’d just like some support.

My fiance has spoken very highly of a female coworker of his, and previously described her as beautiful.

They both have an exam later this year. My fiancé said he wants her to be his study partner. He said he expects they’ll be studying 3 times a week at first, then as the exam approaches it will be daily. He said she takes studying seriously and she will be a good study partner.

Maybe it shouldn’t, but this has really made me feel insecure and upset. To the point where I’m even thinking of visiting my dad who lives abroad for a couple of weeks as their study sessions get more frequent so I feel less jealous and can have some time away from it.

Am I being ridiculous here? I trust my fiancé but I can’t help but get jealous when I know he’ll be in contact daily one on one with a woman he’s told me is beautiful , and I’m feeling pretty down about it, but I guess I’ll have to try to deal with my emotions

Yeah this is unhinged I pray for whoever you are in a relationship with, if you are.

I'm guessing it's something like clinical OSCEs if the OP mentions role plays. Very difficult to prepare for that alone. I have used a combo of course mates, friends, partner and in fact a large teddy called Rupert. It is encouraged and sensible to have a regular partner or group so if it's something like that it isn't a new and childish idea at all.

OP, where will study take place? Also, in what context did mention this woman being beautiful? Bottom line is, you trust him or you don't but I think I would find these things quite key in deciding.

At work on breaks running through a couple of scenarios is not the same as going off to a hotel room to study (extremis), or even to her flat every night for hours.

Does he say much else about her?

She he has told you he thinks she is beautiful why would this mean she suddenly wants to have an affair with him?

Study partners are normal and being paranoid will not stop an affair?

Other than saying 'you need to stop as I think you will cheat' what else could you do anyway?

Your fiancé sounds like a dick that likes to get you jealous.

So many people saying "just because he thinks she's beautiful doesn't mean she's interested in him"...if my partner's fidelity rested on the willingness or otherwise of a potential OW to indulge in an affair, I'd bin him off regardless. He's either faithful because he wants to be faithful and our relationship is important to him, no matter how attractive the alternatives to me might be, or it's worthless. It's no comfort to know that the only reason he hasn't cheated is because she was the one with some morals.

I agree with you, but the reason it bugged me was the apparent lack of agency of the woman involved in the opening post. Op describes her fiance's wants (he wants her to be his study partner, he wants to study 3 times a week or more etc) - no mention of whether she's on board or if it's actually mostly in his head. It's like she's an object who has nothing going on in her life other than being available to him as far as OP and he are concerned.

Can you tell us on what context he said that she was beautiful also what is worrying perhaps is that he wants her specifically as his study partner. Each on their own seems OK but together I'm not sure.