Keep Flirting A LOT when i go out

[flirty]

It's happening more and more.
And goes just a lttle bit too far each time.

I love my dh and am happy. I'm happy with my family and my life.

I go out with my girlfriends (every few weeks. Its been more since nov when my friend's dd and my dd got older and were sleeping better) and when I do I just always end up talking to good looking blokes. They come up to me or i go over to them. Not always alone, with my friends too.

I can only think i do this because i miss feeling sexy and fanciable to strangers. I used to love 'going out on the pull' when i was younger and not trying to sound big headed, never was without male attention.

Now I'm a mum and married I just feel like nobody will ever make me feel desirable in the same way again.

dh does fancy me and tells me a lot. He's affectionate to. Great dad, and friend. I do fancy him. But its a different feeling when i'm out and its a stranger.

I also have issues with my self esteem. Never think i'm pretty enough or attractive enough.
But thats odd too as I have loads of confidence generally and everyone would say i'm outgoing , chatty and confident. I am i suppose, as i go over to these guys and never think they wont fancy me. But I think I must do this to make me feel attractive, i.e, 'I must be nice as I know you want me' etc.

Not sure why i'm posting. Just wondered what you thought.

Been thinking about this a lot recently.

Starting your own business may well help you, Flirty. You'll probably always be a gragarious outgoing friendly sort of person, and there's nothing wrong with that, but if you're acheiving in other areas then you will be more likely to be able to flirt lightly, in a way that doesn't feel quite so desperate. I don't mean, 'hahah, you're totally desperate for sex' I mean that you seem to be flirting in a compulsive kind of way and not actually enjoying it - as though the only thing that matters is how many men you can get chatted up by, never mind whether they are nice, nasty or just unappealing.

Thanks madamez, we'll see.

I do only ever flirt with guys that I fancy though. Not that that makes it any different. Maybe it does. I chat to other men and just chat. Thats it. I only seem to go a bit more daring when I fancy them and know that they are good looking. And therefore probably other girls fancy them too.
Its like if they are flirting with me then I feel better about myself. I dont think about that at the time but if I'm trying to think of reasons why I do it that's what I come up with.

it's very natural to fancy people even if you are in a commited relationship.. Having a liking for sex, or fantasies about sexy strangers or a liking for flirting does not mean you cannot be faithful or happy within a monogamous relathionship. It just means you like games. You can find a happy medium. Good luck