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Can this really happen?

54 replies

PlantsAllOverThePlace · 11/04/2024 19:36

Hi there,
OK, the other night l was doing some online training on my husbands computer, he'd said l can use it anytime. I was trying to find a Web page that l'd looked at the previous night - and had totally forgot what is was called.
Thought, oooo, l can search the history (l'm a real technophobe) but managed to get the history up.
As l scrolled down to find the elusive page, l saw on a Google search 'Pornhub' then the line above gave the actual Web address (with a lovely little picture next to it, just incase l wasn't sure what it was!)
I scrolled further down and realised it was a list of stuff my husband has done on his phone. The other night we were googling kids books, so when l saw them all come up, l knew it was from his phone. I had no idea he'd linked his phone to his computer and didn't even know you could do that.
One of the times was given as just after he arrived at work. Others were after l'd gone to bed and l remember he'd stayed up.
I asked him about it, saying it was fine, it was just surprising as he's not a sexual kind of person. He said he had no idea how it was coming up on his Google searches. He said it may have been from when he'd downloaded some daft games, and that he had no idea what was going on but he assured me it wasn't him. I really don't mind, but l did feel a little side swiped by it. It was his constant ' l don't know how this is happening'. He promised me it wasn't him.
I have no clue when it comes to technology, so l don't know if what he says is true. On one of the searches it was typed in as 'Pornhbb', then the next Google search was typed in as 'Pornhub', then onto the actual web page. Which struck me odd.
Anybody know if he could actually have something downloaded unbeknown to him? I really hope he's not lying to me. He knows l'm fine with stuff like that. Thank you 😊

OP posts:
Daffodilsarentfluffy · 11/04/2024 19:38

Unless you have teenage dc your dh is a big fat liar....

Nelly10 · 11/04/2024 19:41

Errr that’s a 100% lie ! your H is looking at pornhub and downloaded it.

Changingplace · 11/04/2024 19:41

Of course it’s him, random searches don’t appear like that and he’s quite naive not to use private browsing tbh!

Changingplace · 11/04/2024 19:42

Nelly10 · 11/04/2024 19:41

Errr that’s a 100% lie ! your H is looking at pornhub and downloaded it.

You don’t download porn hub, it’s a website, nothing needs to be downloaded.

determinedtomakethiswork · 11/04/2024 19:43

Well, it was someone and it wasn't you so it must've been him!

curlysue1991 · 11/04/2024 19:43

Yeah he's google account is linked to both devices which is essentially making it think it's the same device, your husband 100% searched it 😂

PineappleTime · 11/04/2024 19:43

He's definitely lying!

Crankyaboutfood · 11/04/2024 19:43

If you are ok with it why are you questioning him? I think he is looking at pornhub and is more sexual than you think. I would try to talk to him

Daffodilsarentfluffy · 11/04/2024 19:44

Lying is the issue correct? Not the porn...

JustAnotherSteve · 11/04/2024 19:47

Sorry I am new here (hi!)

Is your issue that he went on PornHub or that he is hiding it? It is the most used porn website (probably) in the world bc it is free. Everyone has there own ideas about porn in general. Guys (and girls) like porn whether they are in a happy relationship or not. You said you are ok with it but maybe he is embarrassed about it? Its unlikely that it would get on his phone otherwise unless he was out with mates and they put it on his phone, lol.

PlantsAllOverThePlace · 11/04/2024 19:49

We often joke about what to watch on TV, and we both say 'Porn'. But we never have, l'm just not interested in it. No, l absolutely don't have an issue with it at all, and l thought he would say yes. It was the over explaining and what l thought was blatant lying to me, that hurts.
He said it was some malware hiding that is doing it. If l knew 100% this is not possible, then l would know 100% he is lying to my face.

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AnotherCountryMummy · 11/04/2024 19:50

He's a big fat liar. You don't get websites in your history from downloading games. You get them by viewing the websites. Pornhub is pretty mainstream/popular in case you're wondering.

He's clearly watching porn. He's maybe lying because he's embarrassed.

LostittoBostik · 11/04/2024 19:52

If watching porn is a red line for you and he was already aware of that then definitely have the conversation.
But otherwise just tell him to clear his history as it's cringe for you to stumble across it

SallyWD · 11/04/2024 19:53

I think it's clear he's lying because he's very embarrassed - seems the most obvious explanation.

JustAnotherSteve · 11/04/2024 19:53

How long have you been together? if your relationship is young its still a learning curve regarding things like this.

FawnFrenchieMum · 11/04/2024 19:55

It’s his google account logged in on both devices so shows history of both. We were confused why my and DHs search history were showing on both phones and it was because I was signed into his email.
Someone is definitely searching for it, so if its not you, it’s him.

PlantsAllOverThePlace · 11/04/2024 19:55

Been together 10 years, married for 3. On our early 50's.

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JustAnotherSteve · 11/04/2024 19:58

Honestly my mum asked me how to remove PornHub from her laptop before she went to visit my aunt and I just had to talk her through removing the quicklink on her main Google page. it took a little while before she eventually told me what she was trying to get rid of. XD
She was in a long distance relationship at the time and apparently they watched it together (eeps)

AutumnFroglets · 11/04/2024 19:58

He said it was some malware hiding that is doing it.

No. Malware wouldn't do that. It might try to steal his money or his passwords but it wouldn't do that. And if he knew he had malware he would be panicking trying to get it off.

Mr Pinnochio has both noses growing.

JustAnotherSteve · 11/04/2024 20:03

I would only be concerned if he was watching gay porn... XD

JustAnotherSteve · 11/04/2024 20:05

Damn - I realised I need to clarify that I only meant that in terms of your relationship. I didn't mean to suggest gay porn is in any way wrong(er)

JustAnotherSteve · 11/04/2024 20:09

But yeah, the women that weren't just responding with "he's a liar" and actually made sense were the ones saying that he is perhaps embarrassed and you should explore that if you aren't uncomfortable with it. In my humble opinion.

Xenoi24 · 11/04/2024 20:09

No, I don't think Malware would cause typed in searches to appear in your browsing history.

Plus, from the first typo, it seems obvious it's a human typing it in.

Xenoi24 · 11/04/2024 20:11

One of the times was given as just after he arrived at work

It's not terribly professional or appropriate to be bringing up pornhub in work. What if someone sees it over his shoulder.

Xenoi24 · 11/04/2024 20:12

it was just surprising as he's not a sexual kind of person

Apparently he is.

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