Are There Any Normal Men on Online Dating Sites

[JL690]

I've decided that I finally need to move on fully from my ex, who is the father of my little one and basically my FWB since I divorced him. I know, why did I do that etc? I signed up for an online dating site but it seems just about all the men on it are action men, climbing mountains, running marathons, gym addicts, bikers, which is definitely not me. Are there any sites that are not full of action men?

I guess it's what you're looking for/find attractive. Most of my photos are when I'm out doing something active a) because that's what I enjoy and b) that's when photos tend to get taken. I think it's unlikely that you would have photos of yourself in an art gallery, at the theatre, reading a book...

I like going out for drinks and to eat but I don't tend to take photos of those things. If I see a profile of a man 50+ with a pint in every photo it makes me think he's probably got health issues, to be frank.

I don't like football or motorbikes so when I see those in a profile it's an easy swipe left. Photos of someone hiking, cycling or climbing suggests they're reasonably fit and healthy and that to me is attractive.

I met DP online. His photos were a combination of tux, hiking, him DJing at at rave.
Very chatty, plenty of quips. We met, had sex on the first date. He's extremely confident. Can be very contentious in his opinions likes a debate. He's coming upto 50.
Been together ever since.

When I was on old , the women were all on beach holidays or drinking or skiing or horse riding or hiking or partying, all seemed to be action women!

the woman I met is a horse rider ( I don’t like horses), I’m a biker ( she doesn’t like bikes much), you need to look past that I think

I know my thread is quite old but I didn't update it when I thought I had found a match. Sadly it didn't work out, he made some requests that were a deal breaker during the football in Germany, so I ended it. I've been back on and still not found anyone, maybe I'm a bit more cautious this time, but one thing is puzzling me. My profile gets likes from other women even though I said I'm looking for a man and set the filters for that. It doesn't bother me, some of them are beautifully attractive. It just puzzles me how it happens.

I'm a bit confused about the dislike for men who are athletic and in shape. Is that not a good thing?

There are normal men out there.

My two nephews both met their future wives on Tinder. I'm biased, of course, but they're both good looking lads with decent jobs.

One is now the proud father of three; the other is the proud stepfather of two.

It is good that they are fit and in shape but their profiles give the impression they don't have much room for anyone who doesn't share their love of gyms, mountains etc

@JL690 You know people in relationships don't have to copy each other and do exactly the same activities at the same time right? Why can't one person go to the mountains or the gym while the other person goes elsewhere with other people?

Nope

All fucked up

Hubby and I met on OLD. We now share a daughter together (his first and last).
But I had to kiss a lot of frogs before he showed up for sure.
To add, my hubby is a HUGE mountain climber and incredibly outdoorsy. Most of his photos reflected that tbf. I am the complete and utter opposite and I would rather have hot pokers thrust in my eyes than go walking with him!!
Opposites can most definitely attract.

I dated a few men a little while ago from OLD and I would say they were relatively normal, at least seemed so from one date or two. One was clearly keeping me on the back burner for sex after a good first date, glad I just got out of that one quickly. The rest were nice, if not quite my type.

What I did find though, was to get those dates was hard hard work. There was just a lot of faffing about, ghosting, arranging dates then disappearing, it was very tiresome and after a while I felt the payoff just wasn't enough for all the time and energy it was taking.

I remember from when I was younger, I used to have to take a break from dating every now and again and that's doubly true for OLD as you have to sift through so much crap to find nice normal people. It can be done though.

@shuggles of course, it's just the first impression is they're too busy, they might not be like that but it is an impression. I've chatted to some and it fizzles out or they disappear, maybe up another mountain lol.

@Fazackerly I think we all see ourselves as normal.

I still don't know why I get likes from other women either 🤔