I am moving into my shiny new home in a few weeks. Currently sorting furniture and moving my stuff. Very excited.
i was staying with my DP of 2 years for last 10 months at his house. His house is over an hour from work and 40 mins from my friends in a rural place. It was really kind of him to let me stay and store my stuff. He says not to pay bills, so I have been buying food, cooking and cleaning had been a 75% split on me. Before I moved in we had an amazing relationship. Not now, mostly due to his moods and my tiredness.
I haven’t settled at his as I am constantly tired with commuting. I was used to living close to a city so had places to go near by and public transport and my house was the place people dropped in. I had a great life. I know some of this makes me look boring, but I didn’t realise how isolated and lonely you can feel away from friends.
at his I have just lived and saved as it’s awkward to go out. I can drive but I don’t go out often, as previously I had the luxury of closeness and my friends have their own families. He has lived his life as normal and goes out to the local with his friends for a weekly lads night, plays his computer games. My social life paused cause of distance. We stopped doing things together as he said as we see each other everyday - he became lazy and sex is infrequent. I used to make plans, but due to his bad lifestyle he is always tired and cancels or forgets. his weekends are getting drunk on a Friday, eating a kebab, getting heartburn during night and tiredness rest of weekend so he doesn’t want to do anything. I think before as we had to travel and plan he wasn’t this bad.
so I got the keys to my house. Excited and doing things. He was not really interested in helping in the run up, but suddenly he is. He has helped lots by putting up lights and building things. My furniture is coming on a day I am off and my friend who is a handy man is helping me put up things and my best friend who loves building furniture. I didn’t ask my DP to take a day annual leave as it’s my house and I am organised and he said previously he hates diy. Annoyingly I asked for help and was told he may be working or is rubbish at diy.
Suddenly he has taken day off work and went in a mood that I have arranged help. I have given him a job to do and said extra hands are welcome. but he has now said he wants to sleep. If I have a house full no point in coming round.
He has gone silent on me as the day comes closer I move out. He complained about my snoring the other day and I joked only a week to go. He said don’t mention it and stop talking about it.
He went in a huff as I arranged movers on a day he had football. Told him no help is needed as I have paid people to move , but will need help when it arrives at my house after football if he wants to come then. Maybe stay first night with me. He said maybe.
I really don’t know what to do. The plan was always me moving to a new build house. Just took a bit longer to build. We have talked about future and he likes my area but is worried he will kids his social connections. We agreed to trial living apart but still seeing each other loads - my house is 10 mins from his work.
suppose I am asking why the weird behaviour. I just have a feeling I may be getting dumped and he has been mr nice guy whilst I move out. My dad thinks he is scared of losing me as DP is not really the talkative / sharing feelings guy.