Not RTFT yet.
I met someone who I’ve know for 15 years we had a few dates when we were teens but it never progressed
You were not right for each other.
- anyway I joined the online dating scene and we matched yay! Never had a connection like it he was telling me everything I wanted to hear, the attention he said he loved me after two weeks!
He asked me to marry him after three months,*
Lovebombing
but things went down hill pretty much after that. If we were out he would say how women were looking at him,
Arrogance
he has four children he doesn’t see any of them. Or pay maintenance for them.
A prince amongst fathers, obviously.
He blames the mothers for him not seeing his children, they took them away from him,
Poor victim
he has hinted that it was his behaviour and he is grown now, he wouldn’t treat a woman bad again!
Of course he wouldn't. Leopards change their spots don't they?
He doesn’t have a job but is trying to get a job he takes drugs. Cocaine and pot. Pot every day all day!
What a waster.
He wanted to move in but his step mum told him to keep hold of his place so he did and now if he’s in a bad mood with me or I say something that he doesn’t agree with he says il just stay at mine!
Let him stay in his own home.
He is constantly accusing me of cheating said he has been the player in the past and has never actually been faithful to any of his exes. He has demanded my location off me, when I’ve been at work. If I want to go out with a friend female he doesn’t like it he texts me all the time if I don’t reply fast he accuses me but he went to the pub with a friend and didn’t even tell me he was going to the pub til after and I felt a way about that, why didn’t he tell me.
He's probably cheating or trying to
I have severe relationship anxiety and the thought of sticking by him when he has. Nothing for him to just leave when he finally sorts his life out is haunting me.
Well, he is Prince Charming after all.
He talks a good talk about building a life together but I feel like it’s convenient for him to be at my home
Future faking.
he said he would move in if he got this job because he wouldn’t have to pay rent then!
Do you want a cocklodger?
We get on so we’ll have such a laugh together
but on the flip side I feel like I can’t afford everything to feed him four days a week minimum to pay for dates if we go shopping he adds stuff to the basket but doesn’t want to pay for anything if he cooks for me he throws it in my face etc.
Did you want a sponger?
when he gets angry at me he calls me names like a sl@g, im crazy or mad! The names get worse but I don’t want to post them.
He'd probably hit you if he wasn't too drugged up.
When he gets angry I just feel like I need to run away and tell him I need space
Do you need money for some running shoes. We could have a whipround.
the relationship worries me that I will waste years of my life for nothing.
You don't have to waste a moment longer.
I have teenage twin girls and he seems to be so good with my two and then I find myself feeling sorry for him and thinking he needs a chance.
Sponging off and slagging their mum off isn't being good to your DDs.
Would you stay with this man
No.
and give him a chance
A chance to carry on being a cocklodging arsehole?
or risk finding someone else who you may not have the same connection with?
Try being happy and fulfilled as a person not as one half of a couple.
I am so confused, OP
It is very simple, @ITriedToBeIndependent . Look at all the red flags, and ditch the useless druggie freeloader.