Hi I’ve found myself in a situation and I am unsure what to do… if you manage to read all this I thank you in advance.
I met someone who I’ve know for 15 years we had a few dates when we were teens but it never progressed anyway I joined the online dating scene and we matched yay! Never had a connection like it he was telling me everything I wanted to hear, the attention he said he loved me after two weeks! He asked me to marry him after three months, but things went down hill pretty much after that. If we were out he would say how women were looking at him, he has four children he doesn’t see any of them. Or pay maintenance for them. He blames the mothers for him not seeing his children, they took them away from him, he has hinted that it was his behaviour and he is grown now, he wouldn’t treat a woman bad again! He doesn’t have a job but is trying to get a job he takes drugs. Cocaine and pot. Pot every day all day! He wanted to move in but his step mum told him to keep hold of his place so he did and now if he’s in a bad mood with me or I say something that he doesn’t agree with he says il just stay at mine! He is constantly accusing me of cheating said he has been the player in the past and has never actually been faithful to any of his exes. He has demanded my location off me, when I’ve been at work. If I want to go out with a friend female he doesn’t like it he texts me all the time if I don’t reply fast he accuses me but he went to the pub with a friend and didn’t even tell me he was going to the pub til after and I felt a way about that, why didn’t he tell me. I have severe relationship anxiety and the thought of sticking by him when he has. Nothing for him to just leave when he finally sorts his life out is haunting me. He talks a good talk about building a life together but I feel like it’s convenient for him to be at my home he said he would move in if he got this job because he wouldn’t have to pay rent then! We get on so we’ll have such a laugh together but on the flip side I feel like I can’t afford everything to feed him four days a week minimum to pay for dates if we go shopping he adds stuff to the basket but doesn’t want to pay for anything if he cooks for me he throws it in my face etc. when he gets angry at me he calls me names like a sl@g, im crazy or mad! The names get worse but I don’t want to post them. When he gets angry I just feel like I need to run away and tell him I need space the relationship worries me that I will waste years of my life for nothing. I have teenage twin girls and he seems to be so good with my two and then I find myself feeling sorry for him and thinking he needs a chance. Would you stay with this man and give him a chance or risk finding someone else who you may not have the same connection with? I am so confused