No social media at all

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Would this raise a concern for you? If someone has never had any social media presence at all, not even professionally on something like LinkedIn
blanket silence online
would this concern you?

I’m not on social media at all, and never have been, so it wouldn’t concern me at all.

DP only has facebook, but thats because he is a technophobe!

I only have facebook and Instragram so i dont have a big SM presence either.

If it is the case and they are not lying, would not concern me one bit. Though of course many people have usernames which give no clue as to their identity.

I don't have and have never had any social media.
I'm 38 btw. More and more people seem to not have it or have deleted it amongst my friends and family circle.

It's actually nice to see that lots of people are also not on it as some people do make you feel "odd" what you say you're not on FB or whatever!

I'm not on any social media. Mumsnet is as close as I get.

Thirty year old male here, and I don't really use social media at all. I have Messenger and WhatsApp for keeping in touch with people, and a LinkedIn (although I use that for job searching, not posting the sort of cringey statuses that seem de rigueur on there), but I deactivated my Facebook profile a couple of years ago, and definitely don't miss it.

I suppose my generation is the first that grew up with social media - I still remember the days when Bebo and MySpace were the things to have - but I think at some stage in your life, you kind of come to realise how unnecessary/unimportant it really is. A few times lately when I've been with friends, they've made comments about how they can't "tag me" in photos because I don't use it - and I just think "oh well".

Of course, I suppose with OLD it complicates it. If someone is completely off the grid and has little demonstratable way of proving they actually exist, then it can raise concerns. But then setting up a convincing fake social media profile takes little time or effort, so that can't always be used as an accurate way to determine if someone is real or not either.

Despite me saying Strava is showing off, I use it myself but mainly for morale boosting. I'm struggling massively with my health atm and my friends on Strava are so encouraging and kind. Definitely very few pictures of me! I use FB in the same way, keep friends to people you really care about and they'll care about you in return.

My DH is only on Strava and linkedin, he's a very decent person who is totally disinterested in SM. Not sure I'd write off a bloke who isn't on it anywhere, you could be missing out.

I have zero, nothing at all, and we don’t own a tv either.

No it would be ideal

I'd say it's more a positive. I don't do SM. DH doesn't. A number of my friends don't. There is nothing wrong with not doing SM.

I have to be on the main platforms for professional purposes but once I properly retire I expect I will delete my profile on them all.

No. My cousin works in a sector where social media is problematic. She has zero SM.

I use social media, but I never use my own name and always use an anonymous email address, and use different nicknames on different sites, so can't be traced across them. I name change regularly on MN. So anyone looking me up would think I have no social media, but I just like to protect my privacy.

Surely it depends on the person. I make it a rule to judge the individual and ignore everything else (within reason). If I met a guy who seemed a bit creepy or shifty, or just off in some way, and he had no SM accounts, that would make me suspicious. Or it would confirm the suspicions I already had, put it that way. But if I met a sweet, charming guy who was a bit of a hippy, or who was obsessed with some outdoor activity like fishing or hiking, then it wouldn’t bother me at all. My brother has zero SM. He’s a bit of an intellectual and aesthete who spends his free time reading and writing and visiting art galleries. He hates SM and thinks it’s driving everyone insane. He also doesn’t want idiots he knew at school back in his life.

I am guessing quite a few here aren't considering mumsnet as social media then ??

A relative of mine has absolutely no social media presence. Doesn't even use messenger or WhatsApp. All communication is by phone call, text or email. It infuriates the hell out of me but it is what it is. There's no red flags - they just choose not to engage with it. The amusing part is they worked in the media industry.

I don't use messenger or WhatsApp...

I didn't have social media for a long time due to my job, then I had personal social media but in a different name, very locked down, all of my colleagues did this.

If I were certain I knew who they were, I wouldn't mind. If I hadn't been able to verify their identity, it might make me suspicious.

I find SM really boring. I have an old FB account I check every 3 months and make no posts, an instageam one just to follow pages on travel, clothing etc and a profile on LinkedIn. Unless it is for professional purposes I do not see the point. A man who is absorbed on SM and very active (unless he has a business) would put me off tbh

I'm in my 50s and have lots of friends with no social media. I don't have any concerns about them. Maybe it's a gen X thing to not be on social media?

My husband and I are 30's

MN is an anonymous forum - which is substantially different.

I come on here. I use WhatsApp for messaging but have rejected the bollox that is social media ( fbook, Instagram etc). I would be really intrigued by someone who doesn't use SM. It is just awful for most people's mental health. It is such vacuous, false crap. I could never go back to writing fake comments on friends walls/ posts just because we have to. I'd rather just speak to them directly and without having to perform - e.g type the right thing for approval ffs. Because that's all we're doing really.
I think he's the one with the right idea, the rest of us are the blinkered ones. You'll only know if he has things to hide once you spend more time with him and get to know him.
Hope it works out ☺️