No social media at all

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Would this raise a concern for you? If someone has never had any social media presence at all, not even professionally on something like LinkedIn
blanket silence online
would this concern you?

I prefer people who don’t have it because they have retained their ability to communicate irl.
Also I think the men who are on SM are more likely to cheat because of their ability to follow other women on it and get DMs that you may know nothing about.
If a man’s going to cheat he will find a way, but with SM his net can be spread far wider for the opportunity.

My nephews, who are in their 20s, have SM profiles on linkedin, Facebook and twitter.

They post nothing on them apart from minimal details as while they don't want any SM profiles on those apps they know to some employers it looks suspicious if they don't have them. (I was recently laughing at the crap one was clearly forced to write about his current job.)

They do use messaging apps with family and friends, plus apps like YouTube under aliases.

I know people without social media because they are not interested or detest it. My 20 something child has deleted most of his social media now.

I don't have any, I don't even know what Linkedin and tiktok are.

Unfortunately I don't think this is that rare. There are a lot of married men on OLD, pretending to be single.

They would just use dating apps instead of social media.

I know people who have been cheated on by their ex's using dating apps. In fact one person was cheated on for over 10 years this way. Her ex's job meant he worked irregular hours..

Even then many people seem to cheat with colleagues. When I've worked in large companies/organisations people were always having affairs. Though on the other side there were some people who were single who met organically, and others who had others playing matchmaker.

MN is the only social media I'm on. I don't think I'm waving a red flag? I just prefer to keep myself to myself, thank you. I don't need validation by posting random shit and waiting to see who comments on it.

I work in IT - lots of the men don't have sm. Sometimes it's because of concerns over data security, sometimes it's because they're just not very sociable.

So far haven't found new man on social media, but I don't have insta/twitter/snap myself. He's also got a common name similar to a major Hollywood star (matches his bank card, though, so if it's an alias, it's an established one.) He works in cybersecurity, so I'm not surprised I can't find him.

I don't really use much SM, the only thing I use to communicate with other people is MN and a couple of subreddits related to a hobby. My BiL has no SM whatsoever, doesn't even have Wi-Fi/internet, he comes to ours to update his phone.

I'm 33 and I've never had any social media. I only started coming on here a year ago when I fell pregnant for baby advice. Never really been interested in it, didn't realise it made people think you're a pysco.

Strava is 'showing off' if you want to put it that way though, it's absolutely no different to FB in that respect

DH is always on Strava, it's like Facebook for runners and cyclists. The only SM I have is Twitter which I use if I need to complain to places like BG and Tesco, it's also handy if the is a power cut or water cut off to find out what is happening but I don't use it in the social sense. MN, Digital Spy, Reddit etc are forums so a different thing from SM

My DP and I do not use social media and you will not find a single photograph of my kids on the internet.
I am on here a lot though.... and DP stares at his phone for hours on end reading news...

My DP had profiles but doesn't use SM at all these days. Doesn't bother me!

No. This is the only thing I’m on. No online profile. Don’t think I’m a nut job.

I was off SM for years, only recently went back on it... it's still full of absolute rubbish and I'll probably end up deleting it soon.

A lot of people don't use SM these days.

I don't do social media beyond this. But I have a half hearted LinkedIn account and Facebook from the early 00s that I haven't logged into for nearly 20 years.

I don't see the need to have an online presence. Drives my SMT mad, that I refuse to engage with any social media work related and that professionally I can't be found and that my LinkedIn in is so terrible. (Statted one years and years ago but didn't complete it)

I'd find it attractive tbh

But I like individual, intellectual types 🤷🏻‍♀️

Two possibilities- genuinely no SM I'd see as a huge positive. Alternatively he's married and has given you a fake name.

The only SM I ever had was FB and Friends Reunited . I haven’t posted on FB for over a decade. I didn’t deactivate but I changed so I can’t be searched for, I just glance sometimes at friends pics, but hardly anyone posts these days.

My partner is only whatsapp cos I asked him to. So it doesn't charge me sending pics. Otherwise he has no social media at all. He is a lot happier without it.

I have no facebook anymore as well. Have instagram but all notifications turned off. One day I would like to have none of it.

Yeah strava is showing off look how much I ran or biked and with whom and the weather was so bad too or look what we get up to in our active family. Look at the posh areas i work out in, oh and this is my posh breed dog arent we a country life advert. It's absolutely showing off. Nobody needs to know you worked out, you could just track it privately on your own. But strava is seen as better because its still relatively exclusive to middleclasses.

My DH emails me pics, I have an iPhone so can send pics to anyone with an iPhone via iMessage so DS and I can exchange pictures. DH chooses to have an Android phone but I don't choose to have WhatsApp, he could get an Apple phone. I used to use it occasionally but deleted it when Facebook bought it.

I'm not on social media, not even linked in. I have zero interest in sharing anything about my life with anyone I'm not friends with, and if I'm friends with them, I see them in person, so I don't need SM for it.

Unless there are other things concerning you, that on its own, no, complete non-issue for me.

My brother doesn't even have a mobile phone !.