One testicle

[Englishman2024]

Hello all,

Due to a birth defect I was born with one ball/nut/testicle. Whatever you want to call it.

I have went on to be a father without any difficulty. I don't take that for granted after reading some threads on here. I was fitted with a prosthetic in my teens.

I've had 2 long term relationships but both of them never knew. Or if they did, they didn't mention it. I've had casual encounters and nobody has said anything afterwards. I've never confided in it to anyone. Maybe I feel ashamed even though it isn't my fault.

When I went to get a vasectomy obviously I had to tell them because it impacts the procedure. The surgeon was impressed about how good a job that was done with the prosthetic. I think he was referring to the way it looks and feels.

Other than the prosthetic and the initial investigation when I was very small, I haven't needed any medical input. Out of curiosity I tested my testosterone and it was quite high.

I think I've lived a normal life and it hasn't really impacted on me so far. The way I look and function is normal.

Question is, 1) would this put you off a long term relationship if you knew?

2. Should I mention it to any future partners and if so when? Or should I just keep living as I am.

Thanks for listening, any comments welcome, good and bad.

@Hildato great to hear

@MaryFuckingFerguson Haha that made me laugh. 😂

I dated a guy who only had one when I was in my 20s. He didn't mention it until after our first time together and seemed so nervous. I hadn't even noticed. I'd be surprised if anyone, who isn't a massive Cunt Canoe, had an issue with it

I would want to know but it wouldn’t put me off in any way. The reason I would want to know was because I don’t think couples should keep secrets from one another but also in case there were any health implications in the future. Let’s say you were unfortunate enough to get testicular cancer. It would make a huge difference with your partner not knowing in terms of treatment but also fertility. You wouldn’t be able to be fully transparent with her and that may affect you both in ways I can’t say but could see there could be problems of trust if she found out after a long period of time.

This wouldn't bother me at all!

Women don't care about a blokes balls OP.

Wouldn't have put me off at all.

Tell them if you like but not really important to be honest.

@MsFaversham yes I totally see your point about not keeping things, no matter how trivial. The fertility element isn't and luckily wasn't an issue. I am exploring the idea of sharing next time around which is something I didn't do in my serious relationships so far. This thread has given me that reassurance I am looking for so thanks to you and everyone for that.

Well that's time saved checking for lumps isn't it? More time to do better things like eat chocolate...

I would mention it just because I would feel stupid stroking something that you couldn't feel! Also if you were my partner I would care about you and hope you would feel able to share something like that with me.

Surely you'd notice as soon as you became intimate though? I have no idea how a testicle prosthesis fits, or looks or works, I didn't even know that such a thing existed. But I'm pretty sure I couldn't be in a relationship with a man for years without noticing it.

One of my exes had one testicle and he was really embarrassed and sensitive about it. I couldn’t have cared less TBH and whilst I understood where it came from, I found his feelings around it slightly baffling. It was a total non issue afaiwc.

Oh hang on, is a testicle prosthesis a surgical implant? So it's like a breast implant?

My DH has this too. I didn’t find out until 7 years in! I was shocked when he finally told me, I’d noticed the fake one felt different but it was more that he had been through quite a big thing that I had no idea about until then. It is such a non issue I was surprised be hadn’t mentioned it sooner.

This. Definitely

One of my exes was the same, except he didn’t have a prosthetic so he only had one testicle. It was a complete non-issue for me (the relationship ended for unrelated reasons), although he was quite sensitive & very private about it. Even his best mate didn’t know. He didn’t use public changing rooms, only private cubicles and he never played team sports. He was also very careful about who he slept with - only women he knew he could trust.

As for fertility, the issue never arose between us because we didn’t want kids. We used contraception as normal on the assumption of fertility.

That's so true. 😂

Honestly, I can't imagine any woman caring too much about this. I certainly wouldn't.

If wouldn't bother me one bit

this thread is probably a third time in the past 10 years when the appearance of balls crossed my mind

don't think there is much to worry about

I tend to think the same. You are under no obligation to share it; it doesn’t make you “less than” and it’s nobody else’s business.

That said, if a long-term partner had something he was sensitive about I would like to think he would feel comfortable sharing it with me. He wouldn’t owe it to me though.

@Daffodilsarentfluffy drink beer!

@MuggedByReality thanks for sharing that. I think that's where the prosthetic liberated me

@TwigletsAndRadishes Absolutely!

Wouldn’t bother me as I wouldn’t even notice. Most women aren’t grabbing or inspecting their fellas balls and it’s not particularly obvious in passing if you’re not looking for it surely

Ha! DH lost one of his to cancer at the age of 34 and I’m wracking my brain to recall what he looked like with 2. I honestly can’t remember! That’s how little it matters.