One testicle

[Englishman2024]

Hello all,

Due to a birth defect I was born with one ball/nut/testicle. Whatever you want to call it.

I have went on to be a father without any difficulty. I don't take that for granted after reading some threads on here. I was fitted with a prosthetic in my teens.

I've had 2 long term relationships but both of them never knew. Or if they did, they didn't mention it. I've had casual encounters and nobody has said anything afterwards. I've never confided in it to anyone. Maybe I feel ashamed even though it isn't my fault.

When I went to get a vasectomy obviously I had to tell them because it impacts the procedure. The surgeon was impressed about how good a job that was done with the prosthetic. I think he was referring to the way it looks and feels.

Other than the prosthetic and the initial investigation when I was very small, I haven't needed any medical input. Out of curiosity I tested my testosterone and it was quite high.

I think I've lived a normal life and it hasn't really impacted on me so far. The way I look and function is normal.

Question is, 1) would this put you off a long term relationship if you knew?

2. Should I mention it to any future partners and if so when? Or should I just keep living as I am.

Thanks for listening, any comments welcome, good and bad.

DH has this, no prosthetic though. Absolutely no issue. We had a sperm count done a few years ago to check and all was fine. He's father to our two DC with no issues

Surely as long as you are- ahem- fully functional a fake nut is matterless??

It's a total non issue. There's no reason to disclose or to hide. Even it were visible it would be a non issue. I don't think women see penises/balls that way, in order for sexual attraction to happen.

It would not bother me at all.

I don't think you're obligated to tell a partner in the way I think you are about your vasectomy, but I would consider it a good opportunity to mention it in a new relationship, because anyone for whom it was an issue for would make me re-evaluate a potential future with them. Perhaps consider it a useful screening tool in reframing this concern you have.

I'm no expert on ball bags but I imagine that with a prosthetic I wouldn't even notice and by the time I was eye level with them we would have known each other for some time and be in a relationship. Wouldn't bother me at all.

Saying that though if prosthetic testicles are like breast implants and you can get them in ridiculous huge sizes, that might put me off.

@pinkmushroom5 that's a good point, thanks. It gets to a stage where it's too late.

@DrJoanAllenby 😂😂😂

I wouldn't care!

@BreadInCaptivity thanks, great point I'll keep that in mind. It'll he a big step to come out and say it.

@Eachpeachpears Well in lad

@Daffodilsarentfluffy well I have rendered myself infertile through the vasectomy! But fully functional aside from that.

@MummySam2017 I don't know how that would feel. Never considered it till this thread 😊

Just be you.

No one and no body is perfect and better to have a missing nut than to be a nut job.

Being vulnerable is hard. Rejection can be worse. But I don't think you'll have anything to worry about. It shouldn't put aomeone off

It's clearly had no effect, or been noticed, and you've not mentioned to previous partners- why do you now feel it needs to be discussed?

@SD1978 Probably a combination of things. I think it's confronting that bit of shame. Wondering where I should have said anything. Curiousity how it may pan out in the future if I mention it.

I am the opposite, I have three balls as as I have an implant .

like you, I was worried about how a new partner would react but my GF loves it and therefore I love it!

don’t be ashamed of what you have, or what you don’t have, embrace it and learn to love it.

as others have said, if a partner reconsidered a relationship because you only have one ball, or three, then the relationship isn’t worth it anyway

@JIMMI85 got one going spare? Where have you been all my life 😂
Jokes aside thanks for the sentiment in your message.

Haha.

on a positive, if you ever get kicked in the balls, it was only hurt half as much right?!

@JIMMI85 haha quickest recovery ever from the snip, half the time.

Don't mention Himmler, Pike!

My lovely DH has one testicle.

we dated for ages before sleeping together and he made such a big build up to the conversation I thought he was going to tell me something horrific.

it never affects our sex life or our marriage. I love him entirely and it had zero effect on my attraction to him

Ds is now 21 but had testicular torsion as a baby so it was removed. He has opted not to have a prosthetic as it would be for cosmetic reasons and he doesn't feel like his ball sack is something a lot of people would see.

I cannot imagine why it would bother someone if their partner had one testicle unless they are particularly fond of fondling two

We have looked into him storing his sperm just in case anything happens to the other one but that was a long time ago so he should probably look into that now, after his uni finals though, he has enough on his plate.

I had a bf of 4 years with one ball. No prosthetic. He explained once why and then we never dwelled on it again. Non issue

Good luck to him!

Bollocks are not exactly something any woman I know cares about. No-one has ever said ‘he’s got gorgeous bollocks’ 😂

I really would not care if there was 1 or 2.