I’ve been with my husband for an over ten years. I wouldn’t say that we are happy but we’re also not unhappy. Everything is just ok. I do a lot with my mum and he does a lot outside the house playing golf and seeing friends. We always have our dinner together but don’t always sit together in the evening but we do go to family occasions together etc. Anyway, a few years ago, shortly after we were married we were trying for a baby and sadly it ended in a miscarriage. After that, about 2 months later we just stopped having sex altogether. It’s never been a massive part of our relationship, we could go weeks without having sex and it wasn’t particularly passionate. Anyway, I’ve just turned 34 and I’m looking around seeing everyone around me is pregnant or has a baby so I told him I wanted to try for a baby. He didn’t seem super excited about it but I assumed this was because he was signed off work with stress. We both weren’t really sure if it was something that could happen for us. We slept together for the first time in nearly 3 years a few times and I became pregnant. He’s signed off work again for the same reasons and I noticed his mood seemed really low and I’d heard him crying at night. I looked at his phone and I saw all these messages between him and this girl he used to work with. It seems like they’ve been in a relationship for about 3 years and she has just found out I’m pregnant. He says he felt he had to sleep with me and he thought I wouldn’t get pregnant. It seems that she ended things around the time I broached the conversation about having a baby. He’s told her how much he loves her and that they are soulmates. More recently, he is messaging her constantly asking about other men she is working with or asking if she is seeing anyone else. It seems he’s chosen me so why can’t he stop messaging her?