Could you forgive being called these names in an argument?

[Baywatch60]

I have currently decided to separate from H
The other night was the third time he stopped low in an argument. In the phone he called me fat, ugly slag and that my vagina stinks. I told him not to return home and he’s stayed away. He’s apologised saying he was just angry but I can’t forgive this time. I am no way fat or ugly so I just can’t believe he said it, again. I feel horrible but am pretending I am fine. Aibu?

oh and what @DrJoanAllenby he is very stupid, this is an important point because dealing with stupid people like this, will make you crazier than you can ever image.

I have lost all respect, i feel completely numb towards him. We share young children and he’s going to be taking them out today so I have to see him. He still cannot believe I am ending it

I can't even imagine my partner or 30 years saying such things. That's absolutely mortifying for you and him. I couldn't live with someone who could talk to me, or anyone else, that way.

While you've every right to be hurt by what he said, a bigger deal breaker for me would be the sheer fucking immaturity of those insults. I couldn't wake up in the morning and get ready to take on the world with such a simpleton by my side.

Sorry you're going through this OP.

If you had come on here asking after this had happened one time, that would be one thing.

But this is the third time. Get him divorced already.

Thats the thing I am a very forgiving person so for me to feel this way now tells me it’s over. I cannot look at him the same.

He certainly hates women. I can't imagine that a man who can say those words is a decent man in any way. He has a darkness inside of him.

Everybody gets angry from time to time....

Hurling insults like that is horrible and completely unnecessary.

What would happen if he hurled insults like that at his boss, or your children's teachers or the checkout worker in Asda etc..... guessing he'd control himself enough to not do it. Yet he has so little respect for you that he'll just say what he wants and pass it off with "I'm sorry, I was angry".

My ExH did this. I included the exact wording, amongst other things, in the divorce papers so he saw it in black and white when he was served with them.

Eugh he's disgusting.

How can he be surprised that you don't want to be with him anymore? Does he think it's OK to call someone (let alone the person you're meant to love most) vile names?

Whatever he claims, being angry isn't an excuse, or an explanation. Decent people don't resort to such vile behaviour even if they're really angry.

You deserve so much better.

You're correct to feel this way OP.
Have no worries about that.
Grey rock the twat when you have to communicate.
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Stick to your guns OP and don't waver, as without a doubt it will happen again.

He might be sorry now he's reaping what he's sown, but it's only b/c it will inconvenience him.

He's resorted to infantile insults to try to get the upper hand. He's showing what he really thinks of you. He won't change and if you weaken your stance now, he'll know he can get away with it another time.

Ty everyone I am sticking to my guns. I have to this time for my MH.

It will be stressful at first, but you will come out the other side and be so grateful you did,

Lots of us understand & will be thinking of you .