WWYD- DH says he doesn’t find me attractive anymore

[Simplesalmon]

So no drip feed, marriage is generally happy but neither myself or DH are particularly emotionally literate. Both a bit buttoned up but me probably less so.

Sex died down a lot after kids but is now non existent. I thought DH had a libido problem but he’s been watching porn and tonight after pressing, admitted that, for him, sex is purely physical and he doesn’t fine me attractive anymore. He did back track and kind of say it’s just not as attractive.

For context, I am probably a dress size bigger so a 10 rather than a 12 but otherwise I keep myself reasonably enough - hair etc all done. Im a few years younger than DH.

he kind of believes that carrying on as is is fine, just ignore the elephant in the room. He Agrees that no sex is a problem but not as big as I’m making out.

I feel that we are lacking intimacy and I think that it’s making our marriage very vulnerable. DH said he’s going to think about what he / we can do but I’m quite upset and a little furious. Who the fuck does he think he is??

Anyone experience of this and what would you do ?

That’s horroblen@Simplesalmon he’s setting you up to spend three hits a day preening for him or having an affair. He’s told you he’s just using you as a blow up sex doll.

For contrast what is a loving relationship, I am twice the weight when we got together and scarred from surgery. Every day my DH tells me I’m beautiful and the way he looks at me I genuinely believe him and he makes me feel better about myself and secure. This is what you deserve.

Don’t waste six more years on this goon. You’ve checked out, so end it properly. Teach your girls what a strong woman looks like.

When my ex said the immortal words “I don’t find you attractive physically, emotionally, spiritually or in any way” there was only one course of action and that was to commence divorce proceedings (but only after admitting the feeling was entirely mutual!)