Does your partner fancy you even if you don't have a conventionally perfect body?

[Salepale]

I have been married for two years. I have put on 1.5 stone since getting married (have had a change of exercise routine and have had bigger meals with him in the evening). I want to shed some pounds, and my husband knows this. I was a size 10/12 when we married. I'm about a size 12/14 now.

But I feel like my husband doesn't fancy me now that I'm a bit wobblier in places. He tells me he likes my face, but he never touches my body. We have sex, but there is no caressing from him (so it's not great for me).

I wondered if there are women out there who don't have a conventionally perfect body, but who feel like your partner really fancies you and wants you? Have things changed after being together for a long time, or does he still act like he fancies you?

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but yeah he doesn’t seem to care

Yup. To be fair I was always conventionally unattractive as I'm plus size and was probably about a 20/22 when my partner and I met. Now several years later and a baby I sit at a 24/26.

He loves me more now than ever and is very vocal about it. (Needed as whilst I've always been bigger my confidence was knocked having a baby). On top of that I've had low B12 since getting pregnant so a lot of greys from the pregnancy and just aging as well and he never says anything except how beautiful my hair is ...

I recognise that I'm really lucky in this regard. I don't think there anything he would mind except if I shaved my head (and he'd still say it's my choice but he'd definitely not find it attractive)

All men should love their partner like that though in my opinion as really you should be with someone for who they are not what they look like. What if you were in an accident, or became ill, or just struggled to lose weight no matter what you did? A partner should love you regardless of image.

Yes! When we met I was a size 22 but am now 26 or so. Not ideal for obvious reasons and I torture myself regularly for letting myself become so large.
My DP won't let me say a bad word about myself though. He genuinely loves and cherishes every inch of me (he admittedly does like sizeable boobs and bum). When we are intimate he gently encourages me to stop trying to cover my belly or boobs or whatever.
Although I know I need to be healthier, it does make me feel incredible that someone thinks I'm beautiful just as I am.