"If I had wanted to block you,I would have"-mind games?

[yaybird]

Me and ex had a bad breakup
Didn't speak for 2 months
He blocked me on WhatsApp but nothing else -so I just deleted him because after everything he did to me I couldn't bare to see him.
Still loved him but I had too.

Around 3 months later I messaged him on Facebook-we got speaking
He said "I only blocked you on WhatsApp,don't you think if I had wanted to block you off everything I would of just blocked you on everything-I didn't "

What did he mean by that ?

That I wanted to make a point but leave an option for you to chase after me..

So why did you message him on FB?

I had loads of un answered questions
He blocked me on WhatsApp before I had the chance

So what were the unanswered questions that were so important?

Even the fact that you're here analysing his messages show a) he's a headfuck, playing games and b) you were much better off when he was blocked

Block him, move on with your life and leave the questions you have unanswered, sometimes it’s better that way. He’s playing mind games.

How old are you, OP? I'm guessing early twenties at most.

Let him go. Find someone who's less of a player.

This seems to be an accurate interpretation OP?

Oh Jesus. Leave it in the past, love. It's done. You don't need answers.

You'll get no happy ending here with this tosser. Move on.

Why do you even care?

Sounds to me like he’s trying to play a silly game of “yeah sure I blocked you but I didn’t BLOCK block you”.

Grow up, move on.

It's unkind to say someone is young because they are agonising over answers from someone who has hurt them.

I am 52 and in the process of divorcing my husband. I've tried to get answers and it takes a while to accept one won't get them.

Reblock him and don't waste any more headspace on analysing any of the shite that comes out of his mouth.

All you're doing is stroking his ego. Stop it!

I absolutely fucking HATE this question on here. It's so patronising!

Yes, because I was definitely never in my early twenties and falling for this shit.

Are you seriously suggesting that our age is totally irrelevant to what we are going through in life?

Well good for you! Some people are not as perfect though

Thinking back to some of the shits I dated in my dignity free youth, it probably means he knew you'd come scratting round for scraps and he thought he could probably whisper some half promises and get a cheap fuck out of it.

WTF? I literally said that I fell for this shit.

Oh wait, you didn't understand. Some of us, who have gone through our twenties, recognise when other people are going through similar issues. So we try to help them.

No, you literally didn't. You literally said the exact opposite. It was literal sarcasm. The word literally has a literal meaning.

Yes. It was literal sarcasm. Meaning the literal opposite of what I said. That's how sarcasm works. Sigh.

Anyway OP, you sound younger than me. (Oh no did I do a thought crime?) So I am going to give you my advice again - don't fall for it. Move on.

I wanted to know what the point of blocking me on WhatsApp to leave me on everything else
Why he treated me how he did

He's a narcissist and he wanted to make it easy to hoover you back up?

He's a selfish prick who wanted to know if you ever reached out to him in order to massage his ego?

We don't know the answer but he sounds awful. The breakup happened for a reason

He didn't block you on everything because he wanted to know you might come calling and give him an ego boost and maybe a shag.

He treated you however he treated you because he wanted to treat you like that.

I'm sorry he has hurt you so much. I hope the experience he put you through turns out to be a good learning curve so that you are able to move forwards and find someone who is a worthy investment of your energy and attention.

He treated you like he did because he is shallow, unkind, immature and irresponsible. He needs to feed his fragile ego by destroying someone else's peace of mind. None of what he did was about you. It was always all about him. He did it because he wanted to and he could.

He knew how immediate and obvious blocking you on WhatsApp would be. He knew it would hurt you and he needed that quick hit to feel powerful and in control. He sounds like a sad wanker and you can do so much better.

FWIW, I completely agree with you that the OP sounds very young.

I was just making the point that when you said "I literally said that I fell for this shit" you could not have been more wrong. What you literally said was the exact opposite of that.

I don't think me as a human being wanting answers means I "sound young "
I'm not young
I wanted answers