Do you throw stuff during arguments?

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If not routinely, have you ever, even once? Watching The Crown the Queen is caught on camera lobbing stuff in anger at Prince Phillip, and when she apologises to the cameramen she excuses it by saying she's sure it happens in every marriage! Does it? I never have but then I've never had a humdinger row anyway. If you throw stuff do you take a split-second to rationally decide what to chuck 'The washing-up sponge is ok, but not the saucepan' or do you just hurl whatever is to hand without even thinking about it? Do you regret it after?

Don't be embarrassed, he goaded you to the point of frustration and makes misogynistic period jokes. No wonder you wanted to throw something at him!

Not since I was 18. I threw a bag of chips at my bf.
Fortunately I’ve grown up in the last 40 years.

No. DH once threw a chair across the kitchen. If he'd ever done it a second time, I'd have left. But life was unbearably stressful at the time.

It was over 20 years ago, but I've never forgotten it, though.

My husband has thrown things twice now. Once was some new clothes I had bought that I had put on the couch. He threw them in anger on the floor because he wanted to lay on the couch and they were there. He stormed off to his study for the night.
Another time he threw a jacket against the wall after asking me why it wasn’t packed away (we were on holiday and packing to leave).

Part of the reason I am trying to find a way to leave.

God no and I'd leave DH if he ever did this.

I was in an abusive relationship with an older guy in my late teens. He never hit me directly but would throw things at me - saucepans, a bedside table, the sofa (!!) - it's abusive plain and simple.

Throwing things is abusive. I did it one time.

I was in a relationship with a man who had a severe anger management issue and was kicking off shouting at me yet again. I lost it and threw a set of keys at him and drew blood on his arm. I felt shocked and deeply ashamed of myself.

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Hope it's OK to laugh at this one.

No, but I do remember my mum once throwing a plate at my dad during a row. They've been happily married for 55 years now (genuinely one of the happiest couples I know) so I don't think it's necessarily a deal breaker if it's a one off.

My partner threw an electric toothbrush at me the other week. I can’t quite process yet the level of aggression he wells up with sometimes. It doesn’t feel normal and yet it’s trivial by most people’s accounts on here so I find it all very confusing and conflicting.

I came on here to say no, I never have and never would, and then I read your post. I've never had anything like that happen in a relationship and I suppose if it did, then all bets would be off.

God yes. Throwing his laptop was entirely justified in those circumstances @SerenityNowInsanityLater.

No, just to be very clear, your partner shouldn't be throwing things at you. I hope you can leave him.

Not me or DH, but years ago (in the 1990s) our neighbours were having marriage issues and their rows used to wake us up in the night they were so loud. One night it sounded like the wife was throwing crockery at the adjoining wall, piece by piece they whacked and shattered accompanied by horrendous shouting. The next day she threw his possessions out of the bedroom window at him as he loaded stuff into his car. Then, when he started to drive off, she flung herself naked (I shit you not) onto the bonnet of his car. They separated shortly afterwards and then we had weeks of her playing the Robson and Jerome version of Unchained Melody at high volume, whilst she howled with tears. So throwing stuff in anger is not a sign of a healthy relationship.

I remember coming home one night as a teenager and finding a tea chest full of smashed crockery in the hall. It was a measure of home life that I barely raised an eyebrow and was mainly sad that some of it was heirlooms from Gt Gran. As it happens, a cabinet full of china had come off the wall, I was much more surprised it was this.

Not a happy environment for children.

They are becoming less and less acceptable, and don’t justify throwing things at/not at others.

my ex husband used throw anything out of place on the floor - not because he had “a different way of expressing anger” - but because he is a cunt. It was done to get other people back into line- same reason as you did it.

Nope but I did pull my own tv off the stand once in pure anger