Do you throw stuff during arguments?

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If not routinely, have you ever, even once? Watching The Crown the Queen is caught on camera lobbing stuff in anger at Prince Phillip, and when she apologises to the cameramen she excuses it by saying she's sure it happens in every marriage! Does it? I never have but then I've never had a humdinger row anyway. If you throw stuff do you take a split-second to rationally decide what to chuck 'The washing-up sponge is ok, but not the saucepan' or do you just hurl whatever is to hand without even thinking about it? Do you regret it after?

No never. I can hold a grudge though.

No, and I’ve never had anything thrown at me,

Never at people. Usually a screwdriver goes flying if i cant do flat pack furniture 🤣...then only person i usually hurt is myself...think laurel and hardy 🤣

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Old NDN threw everything on a Saturday nights - pretty much the whole house and windows smashed - think drink had something to do with it.

Never. XH used to throw stuff at the walls and on the floor though.

I did throw something back at ExH that he had thrown at me. How I stayed with him for another 8 years, I have no idea.

I threw an egg at the wall in a fit of rage. It's not beneath me lol

No and I’d consider someone throwing things in anger to be violent and abusive.

Only in my late teens, was probably channeling Beatrice Dalle

I've been tempted, yes. But I don't want to break things I like.

No never. I can’t imagine losing control of my temper to such a degree.

I used to throw things, but not at anyone, just in frustration. I generally don’t now although I did hurl something the other day but I was in the house on my own. Even the cats were out.

Throwing at someone isn’t ok.

Mind you I did throw all my ex’s stuff out the window whilst screaming obscenities at him. It was very satisfying. No regrets there. He was a cunt. The steel toe cap boots that dented the roof of his car were particularly memorable.

I’m going to a rage room soon where I can break stuff to my hearts content though. Can’t bloody wait.

Yes, I have in the past, but not at other people, only at the bed/floor. Have lobbed a cushion or similar at DH in jest.

Only once, after a heated argument with my husband and he kept following me around.
I was drying off the kitchen counter with a piece if kitchen roll and got so overwhelmed and angry I lobbed the wet kitchen roll at him.
Hit him square in the chest and fell to the floor with a thump.
We were both speechless and he took it badly but thankfully forgave me eventually, but still occasionally brings it up to remind me that I'm a menace on my period.
But deep down I swore I'd never let myself ever get that angry again. I'm still embarrassed to this day.

No, I wouldn’t throw things at my husband. But I can be mean towards inanimate objects if those are not cooperating.

I was an occasional tea towel chucker (and once, a packet of hot cross buns!). Usually followed by dropping to my knees and sobbing uncontrollably. The joys of trying to hold a family together with the most horrendous, lazy, selfish, lying, aggressive, alcoholic bastard. He's gone now and I am chill AF.

Only once, with my ex husband. I was raging mad one Saturday morning because he'd left us with just a 20 pound note in the house, and the taxi that was to take me to work was about to arrive, and it was only a £4 fare at most (and the drivers used to whinge if you gave them a £5 note) ..it was 5am, there was nowhere open that I could have got change from that wouldn't have caused me to be very late (and I would have got in a lot of trouble for that). This was pre-internet so no Uber or anything like that...heck at the time all we had were electron debit cards!

I was madly looking through the bedroom, trying to see if there was some change somewhere...grabbed a metal candlestick and threw it behind me without looking...it managed to hit ex husband right in the mouth! We were both so shocked...he knew I hadn't aimed for him, I hadn't even looked when I'd tossed it over my shoulder. I burst into tears, rang the taxi firm, cancelled the pickup and then rang in sick to work. I ended up giving my notice at that job on the Monday - it was badly paid, I never got 2 days off in a row and my actual job bore no resemblance to the one I'd been interviewed for.

That was 25 odd years ago and I'm still good friends with ex husband, we sometimes mention it and laugh! I've never thrown anything when there's someone else in the room ever again.

Nope. DP used to throw things very, very occasionally. Like, twice in our relationship.

On occasion no.3 I put my foot down and said he must never do it again. First it's a phone at the wall, then it's a cup at my face, then it's a fist. He disagreed with me that this was the progression, but agreed that losing his temper absolutely had to stop.

There's no sign of anything getting thrown again. He knows if he throws something again I'll leave him.

Throwing things is violent and there's no place for it in a healthy relationship.

I did once. I walked in on an old boyfriend in bed with someone else.

So I tipped up the ironing board, upon which was an iron, and a large glass jar full of coins. The glass jar smashed, scattering coins and glass everywhere. And the iron hit the floor and cracked a tile.

It was very cathartic. I didn't even particularly care about it or him, but I had the sudden urge to smash stuff up.

I use to. Nothing big or breakable. It was out of frustration and an inability to express myself and communicate. I would clam up become overwhelmed.

It isnt appropriate though, at the end of the day losing your cool no matter if provoked. (Like in reactive abuse as the extreme) as soon as you lose it, it can be used against you and in an outsiders eyes unable to see the full story your pretty much cornered and screwed.

Nowadays when i get to that point i will walkaway or try and de-escalate the sutuation/myself to gather the space i need to centre myself and reasses my approach. Its hard if the reason is an idiot who won't let you get a breather 😂 i was in an abusive relationship once, i think their whole aim was to provoke a reaction like this.

I have been a thrower in the past, never at anyone, quite the opposite. It’s poor behaviour though, emotionally stunted even, and something I have worked on over the years.

Nope.

I don't live with my partner, in part because I find keeping your own homes and having your own space reduces to zero any potential for a disagreement to get to the point where there's enough anger for it to constitute an "argument".

When I did live with my Ex, arguments were still few and far between, but the few I can remember that resulted in a loss of temper usually saw me slamming the front door on the way out for a walk in the park to calm myself down. I can't say I've ever felt the need to assault someone by throwing something at them, even though I'd figuratively contemplate wanting to strangle them for their obstinance or ignorance.

I do have a temper, but it takes a lot to push me to the point whereby I lose control of myself and I can only remember it happening once or twice in my entire life. I think co-habiting brings with it both pressures, and if it's long-term enough, a degree of contempt that can make people more quick to anger and more readily lose their temper. I really can't be bothered with the confrontation any more, or the minor irritants that invariably go hand-in-hand with living with another person and tend to grow arms and legs over time, hence why I will no longer do it. Partner feels the same way.

Mother did occasionally throw things at my Father in the heat of the moment, and the fact he just brushed it off as if it hadn't happened and looked completely unbothered by it just incensed her even more. She wasn't habitually violent, but of both parents she was the one who readily raised her hands to me for even the most minor of, or completely imagined transgressions, and I can't for the life of me understand why anyone would permit themselves to get into such a state that they feel throwing fists and objects is an appropriate response. Classic sign of a thug, and I have no time for those. The fact an apology or even an acknowledgement has never been forthcoming is one of the reasons I have nothing to do with her. Funnily enough, it stopped entirely once I grew a bit and it was obvious to her that if I decided to thump her back I'd do a lot more damage to her than her me. Another thing that emphasised she was nothing more than a bully. The thing I don't really understand is that she didn't come from a family where that was the done thing. Her own siblings have both told me that neither of their own parents were ever violent or raised their hands to each other or the children, and she was also an educated woman with a decent job, in which she had a duty of care to children, so why she felt it in any way appropriate to lift her hands to her own child is a mystery.

I have.

I don't throw anything in anger.