Random guy just gave me his number

[Barbarella73]

I’ve just had a guy walk up to me on the street and ask me if he can give me his number. Thinking there must be some kind of scam afoot I asked him why, and he said ‘Because I think you’re really cute and maybe you might get in touch if you had my number’. He seemed sweet but too young. I took his number as I wanted to get home (I’m on my lunch break), and tbh I was flattered. This must be a thing guys do for a bet, right? I’m 51!!!!

Take the compliment! There's lots of men who like older women and he might just look young for age. Who knows....

But...heeeey girl you pulled! Intentionally or not.

Enjoy it

How old did he look? It could be a bet, or a joke. I hope you didn't give him your number, fine to get his, if he looked decades younger, assume its a fake and don't be temped to use it, he might have even given you a mates number as a pisstake.

Ick, he's like an over confident pick up artist that does this to numerous women or perhaps a scam to befriend you first, targeting you for money.

It's a compliment, if you like him go on a date. I would approach an older woman if I found them attractive and I am single

He said he was 34. I liked that he wasn’t pushy, I didn’t feel uncomfortable in any way.
i’m not going to contact him but hopefully he was just a nice guy and not doing it for a bet. That would be a dispiriting thought.

If you didn't feel uncomfortable in anyway I'd just take it as a compliment.
There's no pressure here for you to contact him.

If you are single and fancy a date with a younger man why not? If you're not interested or already in a relationship just bin the number.

I guess I don't have to remind you about the hordes of scammers that target older women.
Your gut instinct at the moment told you to distrust this individual.
If you want to go ahead and call him, fine, but I would be extremely cautious.

That would make my day yet seriously freak me out but I think the compliment would win. What a fun thing to happen. The thing of movies. I'd be tempted to message him but I'd wonder if he made a habit of it. Cute though!

But yes, scammers, because the world is not actually a romantic movie .

Pick up artist

Bloke here - I asked for a number from a beautiful woman I fancied in a restaurant whilst she was sat with a group and I was with a couple of mates eating a few tables over.

Rude I know....but she gave it to me, we messaged each other later that night, met for a formal date a couple of weeks later and she is now my DW of 3 years.

I was single at the time and just thought, the worse that can happen was she'd say no or she was in a relationship.

Take the complement :)

Dodgy.

Pick up artists also do this. It’s a numbers game. Or he may have been practicing.

But it’s ok to be flattered! He didn’t have to try!

I wouldn't be flattered by this I would find it extremely uncomfortable

I worked in a pub as a student and I’m a public librarian now - as a result, attention from strangers doesn’t discomfit me unless they’re disrespectful or in my personal space.

Hopefully you never find yourself in any situation that makes you feel extremely uncomfortable.

So many cynical opinions.
I think it’s great.
That was how it was done in the old days.
Why not just take it in that spirit.
I would send him a kind message, simply because he had guts.
(And who the hell cares if he wasn’t genuine, it’s no skin off your nose).

I mean I take it as a compliment but yeah it's a pink up artist move unfortunately. Which maybe wasn't bad once upon a time but now they're Andrew tate wannabees.

This has happened a few times to me in London and I assume they were pick up artists or they were much younger (20s). But what do you have to lose if you message back?

I’ve had it happen a few times, I’m in my 40s and it’s always been those who are younger. I’m relaxed with it if they gave you their number and not ask for yours. And yes, l have had a very pleasant meet up after one such encounter.

I’d call him and go on a date, just be cautious, but you would be with any new guy anyway.

Oh, I watched Unfaithfull recently!
Not for me. Smile, take paper with number, wait till hone, bin!
I would not write the phone number down on my phone.

This. Just do the usual thing. Public place, lots of people about and go with no expectations. And stay sober!

I guess I may have met my first PUA today then 😂
Most guys here can’t be arsed going to that much trouble for sex or an ego boost (I’m in Dublin).

I live in London, and this happened to me a few times. A guy came up and complimented me like, "You are lovely", and then walked away. A lady did the same in a separate occasion. Or another guy walked past me, turned back and asked my number. I am not confident, but I must admit incidents like these boosted my confidence. However, a part of me always wanted to go back and ask them if they did so because they lost a bet or they were practising PAU on a seemingly quiet person like me.

It's a numbers game.