Sex with men around 50

[Rania78]

So, this is a cheeky thread. But wanted some advice to make sure I do not get this wrong.

I date a man I met through OLD. Find him cute, I am attracted to him, he is sweet -
so far. I am 45, he is 49. After third date invited him home, had fabulous time and we had sex. It was awsome, we seem to be a good match there as well. He stayed over the night, in the morning I came onto him had sex again. He is very easy to get aroused.
The other day went to his place, had a nice night. Had sex, I stayed over. In the morning I wanted to have sex again but didn’t initiate as I was a bit hesitant. He didn’t either. Bottom line is that I have heard that men at this age have a refractory period of 12-24 hours and as we had sex at 21:30 and it was 05:00 in the morning didn’t want to bring him into difficult position in case he couldn’t function yet.

SO! Ladies with partners at 47-50. How many times can a man this age have sex? Should I initiate the second time? Will I bring him into difficult position in case he needs more time to “recover”? I find him really sexy and fancy him a lot 😄. Want him all the time.

And actually It would also be nice to have feedback from men at this age? What should I do If I want him again after a few hours? Should I initiate amd see what happens? Let him do it?

[Ramalangadingdong]

When I was in my twenties I had a lover who was 48. He had no problems at all. Best lover I ever had. I think you’re just going to have to discover what he’s like through practice.

Snd how old are you? You talk as though he’s ancient. Sounds like you are going to wear him out.

[MuggedByReality]

Middle aged men’s sex drives vary, in just the same way women’s do. He may be, ahem, up for it several times a day. He may not. So just, er, suck it & see. 😉

[Rania78]

@Ramalangadingdong

When I was in my twenties I had a lover who was 48. He had no problems at all. Best lover I ever had. I think you’re just going to have to discover what he’s like through practice.

Snd how old are you? You talk as though he’s ancient. Sounds like you are going to wear him out.

I said on my thread I am 45. He is 49 and ridiculously cute. He looks younger and I think he is way better than many younger men.
it just that you read so many things about men after 45 needing 12-24 hours to recover and I don’t want to initiate second round and make him feel uncomfortable.

[TheABC]

It's not going to be springing back after 10 minutes, but a couple of hours should be fine.

Initiate and see what happens. In a worst-case scenario, he can still enjoy sex using the rest of his body (it doesn't always have to centre around the penis) and if he says no, don't make a big thing of it.

I think most men would rather have a partner who fancies the pants off them, rather than one who shrugs their shoulders and can take it or leave it.

[NorthernJim]

Everyone's different. A physically healthy 50 year old man probably has more sexual stamina than an unfit 30 year old. And it also depends on the partner and newness of the relationship. Even older people can manage to go at it like rabbits early in the relationship.

And refractory period is more about reaching orgasm again, not getting hard. So you'll probably find he takes longer to climax in subsequent rounds. Until he can't gets there at all, but the fun is in the trying.

Don't overthink it, just enjoy it. You won't break him (probably).

[SamW98]

My last partner was 58 when we split and although he needed a good few hours recover time, we had sex morning and night over the weekend (that’s only time we saw each other). Most weekends was 4/5 times

[QueenCamilla]

Able to perform or not, he clearly wasn't "gagging for it". And at 5am, I don't blame him.
Morning sex is great. When I'm awake. Which at 5am I'm not. At 5am I'd boot a young Brad Pit in the ribs.

[Bobbotgegrinch]

Man of 40 and it varies massively here.

It's less about how long since I last had sex, and more about how much sex I've had recently. So if I've had sex 5 times in the last 3 days, the odds of a raging erection 8 hours after the last session aren't going to great. But if I've only had sex once in the last month then it's probably only going to take half an hour before I'm ready to go again.

Your best bet is just to give it a try and see what happens. Play with his balls a bit or stroke the area just above his penis. If you start getting a reaction then you're good to go, if not then you're just being affectionate, and noone needs feel embarrassed, he just needs a few more hours.

Don't just start tugging on a flaccid knob though, it's not sexy for anyone involved and highly unlikely to have the intended effect.

[Shopkit]

5am would be too early for me! 🤣

[SamW98]

@QueenCamilla

Able to perform or not, he clearly wasn't "gagging for it". And at 5am, I don't blame him.
Morning sex is great. When I'm awake. Which at 5am I'm not. At 5am I'd boot a young Brad Pit in the ribs.

To be fair anything prior to about 9am and they’d get a slap - morning sex is fabulous but not crack of Dawn sex

[Zanatdy]

I dated a guy who was 49 last year and he had no problem going again at say 8-9am after having a long session around midnight. He lasted ages and I reckon it’s because of porn use. He did say he wasn’t in his prime sexually anymore but I didn’t have any complaints

[Fs365]

Man of 54, and it’s a how long is a piece of string question, morning sex is probably best as testosterone levels are highest and more chance and a rapid recovery, maybe 2 hours

also agree with poster above, if you are in the mood, just touch him , bum, balls, chest, back etc, see what happens

there is no greater turn on than a woman who wants you

night sex is a killer for me as I just can’t keep my eyes open afterwards

[josuk]

I was going to say - no man in early stages of dating would mind you initiating…
However, then i noticed the time… 5 AM!?!
Even Jason Momoa won’t raise me at that time…

Enjoy dating and don’t overthink. Unless it’s dead of the night and most people are asleep 😅🧐

[GabiT]

It varies so much from man to man. The last guy I dated was 49. We used to meet once a week and we would have sex twice in the evening and then once again in the morning. I rarely had that much sex even with younger guys. He rarely finished the second time in the evening, but from the way he was talking I gathered that he used to finish more easily when he was younger. He had no issues with getting hard.

The guy before that was 48. We’d spend a whole weekend together but we’d barely have sex twice in the whole weekend, sometimes only once. His erection wasn’t always the best. After knowing him for a while I realised that he had a low libido.

The guy before that was also in his late 40s. He became hard easily and wanted frequent sex but would last for aaaages. He blamed porn but who knows.

Overall, I found guys in their late 40s less keen on sex than younger guys (obviously) and some have issues maintaining their erections.

From what they told me, how frequent they want to have sex also depends on how attracted their are to the women they are dating.

[Missamyp]

Dp is in this age group. He literally has no refractory period. He says he's always been this way.

[FOJN]

It varies so much from person to person wouldn't it be best to just ask him?

[MissConductUS]

Men produce most of their testosterone while they sleep, so it's at peak levels in the morning. You should have given it a go.

[Opentooffers]

It's individual, some men take a while, some don't. No harm in going for it when you feel the need. I'm sure he'll let you know if he's not up for it. You might have missed an opportunity from someone who could be well capable there.
I would think though that anyone who wants 5am sex, can expect to be the initiator at that time.

[Rania78]

Thank you all for the feedback.
next time I am going to give it a go. Discreetly. Like I did the first time. And If he wants he will take it from there 😄.

[Patrickiscrazy]

NO. 😁

[MiltonNorthern]

My DH is 52 and I know he's an outlier but he has the stamina and capacity of a 25 year old 😆 if he can get it up and achieve orgasm don't worry, it's all working fine. I am sure that 12 hour statistic is an average which means men like ours are the ones who sit on one end of the curve!

[mitogoshi]

It varies, but at least at 50+ it can take a bit of a gap to be ready again, that's when the pills come in handy

My philosophy is quality not quantity

[Louisetopaz21]

My dh is 56 and we do it twice a day and more over the weekend. I think it depends on the man.

[Deargodletitgo]

First time we slept together think we did it three times over the same night. Twice a day kept us going for a while, mostly once a day now...he's ,52 I'm 49 🤣

[tittybumbum]

@Louisetopaz21

My dh is 56 and we do it twice a day and more over the weekend. I think it depends on the man.

Twice a day every day? How long have you been together?