Sex with men around 50

[Rania78]

So, this is a cheeky thread. But wanted some advice to make sure I do not get this wrong.

I date a man I met through OLD. Find him cute, I am attracted to him, he is sweet -
so far. I am 45, he is 49. After third date invited him home, had fabulous time and we had sex. It was awsome, we seem to be a good match there as well. He stayed over the night, in the morning I came onto him had sex again. He is very easy to get aroused.
The other day went to his place, had a nice night. Had sex, I stayed over. In the morning I wanted to have sex again but didn’t initiate as I was a bit hesitant. He didn’t either. Bottom line is that I have heard that men at this age have a refractory period of 12-24 hours and as we had sex at 21:30 and it was 05:00 in the morning didn’t want to bring him into difficult position in case he couldn’t function yet.

SO! Ladies with partners at 47-50. How many times can a man this age have sex? Should I initiate the second time? Will I bring him into difficult position in case he needs more time to “recover”? I find him really sexy and fancy him a lot 😄. Want him all the time.

And actually It would also be nice to have feedback from men at this age? What should I do If I want him again after a few hours? Should I initiate amd see what happens? Let him do it?

How many times can he go for?

4 years 😆😆

Neither of us likes morning sex but DH is late 40s and we often do it twice of an evening. 5am is for sleeping. We have a baby and if anyone but the baby wakes me at 5 I’d want to murder them.

Mine is late 40s and can sometimes only take an hour or so to recover, other times longer - depends on his mood, tiredness etc.

My ex was late 50s and the same!

Best thing to do is to ask your fella. And if he is a good lover, remember there are things you can do that are fun and intimate which don't necessitate him being hard anyway - it shouldn't be all about the PIV.

Good luck and enjoy!

Is say max twice in an evening if they are fit and healthy
but easily night and morning you’d hope !?

DH is 50 this year. He can sometimes go again after 10 minutes, and will easily, happily have extensive sex 3-4 times every day.

There really is no way we can tell you- it just depends on him as an individual, and how your relationship is.

Hugely depends on the man. Some are very fit. Others may suffer mental and/or physical health issues which don't help in the bedroom - some medication can also be unhelpful.

Some will struggle to get it up in the first place, may not be able to maintain an erection and may or may not come at all. Some have very good erections and have learned how to keep going for ages and certainly don't need as long as 12 hours to recover. Men in their 50s have had decades to refine their craft and can be very good at knowing how to satisfy a woman, and that it doesn't always require a penis. Some will happily go to bed for hours.

Morning sex is wonderful. Waking in the middle of the night for it and then sleeping again can be wonderful. But expecting someone to have sex rather than sleep is very definitely not wonderful. Sleep is important.

@Louisetopaz21 do I've got to know 😂. In these multi sessions over the weekend, are you snogging and smushing body parts in between or do you go off make some food, have a shower then go again?

A girl has to have food and a shower in between the love ha ha 😂 😅 😆 🙃

As often as we like.

My DP is 47, he can go roughly every couple of hours. Normally he is done for the evening after 2 rounds but can go again the following morning. We can go 3 or 4 times across the space of a full day. If you are interested let him know, he can tell you if he can’t go round again.

I’m a similar age to you OP and l’ve had sex with a number of men around 50, but not anything serious or long term. Mostly it has been very good or excellent.

l suspect he didn’t initiate because you were both in what l would call “stand off hesitancy mode”. For goodness sake, life’s too short, if you want something go for it. He, just like you can say no if the time is not right.

The guy I am seeing is nearly 53 and we had sex 4 times in the space of 18 hours over the weekend.
But we hadn't seen each other for 2 weeks.

My DP is 49. A bit like one of the men said, it may depend on when they last had sex.

Sometimes we don’t see each other a couple of weeks due to work and when we reunite, we will always have sex at least twice within a couple of hours. He usually starts playing with me and gets aroused again from that.

He’s average physical health and fitness for his age, doesn’t particularly work out. Twice within an hour or two is pretty standard for him.

Other men of similar age that I’ve been with have been quite similar tbh, around 45 and try for at least twice within an evening, though don’t always finish

Is this really a problem.

You sound a bit full on.

No no. Not a problem at all. I m just attracted to him a lot and want him sexually.

I gathered that, but to the point you're clock watching.

The best and only person to answer this question correctly, is him.

Talk to him.

But he is around your age, surely you have dated men of a a similar age before. Not that this is an age thing, but you are asking as if he has beamed down from Mars.

Well, I was married for 20 years to a man who is now 44 years old and was leaving in a somewhat sexless marriage. So, no haven’t been with many men this age and this is a new experience for me. :). And yes we are similar age but I am a woman. So I am interested to know how to “handle” this.

As long as he is fit & healthy and doesn’t suffer from ED or any other medical conditions , multiple times should not be an issue really and he won’t break,
even if he does struggle with ED, plenty of non-prescription treatments about nowadays

Definitely no ED issues for sure 😁

My DP is coming 51. I am 41. We have been together the last 5 years.
Honestly he is the best partner I have ever had in bed.
Never an issue in terms of not being able to perform no matter what time of day or night.
I have to be honest he has been very patient........I am on my third pregnancy in as many years and I'm gutted as it's me that can't have as much sex as we normally would have had.........
I suggest OP just make a move on your man when you are feeling frisky.......absolutely nothing to loose!!!

It depends on his health and mood but the most usual and common is that errections get weaker and libido drops with age for men.

59 here (not long until the big 60) and I'd say don't overthink it. Numbers, stats all sit outside the reality of life. We're all different
I can go again after a couple of hours sometimes, sometimes not and I've no doubt you'll find out as you explore. It's not all PIV either in terms of getting off.
Have fun and just go with the flow?