No mums day card or acknowledging

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Just that really my son been up got his breakfast as into gym and health. Gone back upstairs in room. Daughter same.
Oh gone to work which he has to but because son and daughter over 18. One is 20 and other 21 he thinks they adults so feels he shouldn't have to remind them.
Sitting in kitchen on own now drinking cup coffee and treat I bought myself.

Oh is very generous if I ask him for something and always offering stuff when out but Valentine's Day was after thought where he ordered roses diliveroo and everything just feels not much effort. Hope I don't sound like I feel sorry for myself but I do😂

More sad re two adult children today as done a lot for them and a homemade card and one picked flower would have been nice. Just someone thinking of me.

Got parents coming later so will be cooking dinner but I do all that as dad unwell.

Am I pathetic
Probably

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Go travelling

I feel not all but a lot of younger people can be very selfish these days
I don't get it

You shouldn't be buying presents for grown adults to give to their father, people much younger than them are capable of organising something. It comes over rather that they have learned selfishness and disinterest because they've not been expected to behave otherwise.

They are more than old enough to be told your opinion of their behaviour.

If I was you I'd take to my bed today, fuck cooking on Mother's Day. If you're too ill to eat out they could have ordered in. I do nothing.

Going forward they're three adults. Treat them the way they treat you or leave.

Since my husband passed my stepson, who I used to be really close to for 48 years has treated me like this. No birthday cards or gift, no Christmas cards, no phone calls or visits, except on HIS birthday to collect the gifts & card I had bought him! I’ve decided that from this year he will be getting the same treatment from me.
It’s very hurtful. Don’t be a doormat for your family. Start to prioritise yourself. If they do nothing for you, treat them the same way and see if they like it. Get your own hobbies and follow your interests, go out for meals, day trips and on holidays with friends who do appreciate you.

Honestly, book a week away somewhere, just for you. Inform them you will be gone, and go

They can be very selfish op so sorry for you. My son is all about him (22). My daughter is alot better. Make no fuss of them going forward. Hugs sent. My son at match just sent a text!!

One of them has just produced a card I think I've seen this card before but it's something! An old card bought for something else but not used.
But something!

Yesterday one of them got a parcel with goodies in it for themselves.

Feel you op. My littlest has made a kind of effort. Made a card with school, then had a paddy yesterday and defaced it. Oldest’s (14) GFs birthday so not interested in mothers day. No card, gift or anything. Just wanting money for a gift and card for her oh and a lift of course…spending the day with his GF. Im upset but im used to it sadly

Explain to them, once, that youre hurt they couldn't even be bothered to get you a card on mothers day after everything you do for them in the year.
If they kick a fuss up...get your coat on...your handbag and go out...dont tell them where youre going..just go and spoil yourself. Any hassle when you get back...go out again ...dont tell them where...go to a friends etc etc.

By being around all the time, especially when theyre moaning about you tells them its acceptable.

Tell everyone dinner is cancelled and let your parents know that youll go to theirs in the week to cook for them.

How brave are you OP?

I cba anymore.
Going join college or gym spa and start doing my own thing.
Spent my whole life worrying about others.

Do it today

My two student children are both home for the weekend on an unplanned visit after a cancelled sporting event. DD decided not to buy a card as they're so expensive and forgot to get the chocolate she'd planned instead. No mention of Mother's Day from DS. We don't make a big thing of any event so I'm reaping what I sowed. My DM has a card but that was last year's that I forgot to send!

OP, mine were similar at that age. They do improve eventually, once life has knocked them around a bit and taught them to be more appreciative.

Get a part time job and spend all the extra money on yourself.

I work so don't have time for part time job as already got a job but my money goes into main pot as does oh.
I'm just going move on from this and not be so bothered about them on their special days. Same treatment for them that I get,

My adult DC don't live with me (23 and 21). Not even had a message via Facebook from either of them! 😢 Youngest DC came over from his dads with perfume and a card though, and we'll have dinner soon then out for a drink.

I doubt I'll hear from the other 2 unless they want something. It's really shit.

I'm really confused about why kids are saying cards are expensive. I bought a nice card the other day for 59p. We're in a living hell type situation at the moment and money is tight but I had my mum in fits of laughter with a gift that cost £3.

It's not about the money it's about the thought and effort. It's not too hard to make someone smile.

Hope you have a nice afternoon with your parents.

I’m so so sorry OP. My sister & I are both in our 20’s and neither of us live at home anymore but even so we were both straight round to my mum and dad’s this morning with cards and presents for mothers day and taking our mum out for lunch. I can’t imagine a time when we won’t do this for her, she deserves it! Hopefully your kids have something in mind for later, there is definitely no excuse, for less than £5 you could buy a card and bunch of flowers from our corner shop!

I know your kids are adults but I do think your husband could have made some effort for you anyway.

Very sad that your children are so selfish. I would be telling them in week or so leading to it that it is Mothers Day. Maybe tell them as it is Mothers Day they can cook a meal for you?

You should not let them get away with it or they will just continue to be thoughtless and selfish

I understand what you're saying OP about not wanting to have to remind them or tell them, but you are setting them up to fail by not telling them your expectations in advance.

I told my 17 year old DD last week "you have your own money now, so I'm expecting something from you"

Previously my DH would sort something, but now she's of an age when she can do it herself.

I'd have told them a few months ago.

My mum used to be all "it's a waste of money. Don't get me anything." And then get the hump when I didn't, which is ridiculous.

Im a widow snd we never did much for Mothers Day anyway. My 18?year old DD doesn't even know it's Mothers Day.
You know they aren't going to do anything. So don't expect it. Get yourself a treat and enjoy it (I buy my own Christmas present every year).
It doesn't matter what you have done in the past; announce that it's Mother's Day so you are having the day off. No cooking, no cleaning. Have a nice bottle of something for yourself.

I'd be pissed off too.

I'm same OP

Only 1 of 3 adult children has remembered

I got a text at 0700 from daughter but nothing from her 2 brothers

I don't need gifts or invites , just a call or a text would have been nice