Small back story.. Partner's ex cheated on him, they had a full-blown second relationship so was all very sneaky and I met him two years later. It's been six years and we moved to his hometown, she lives close by so inevitable that we may see her. Partner has seen her a couple of times and has told me after and I'm surprised with all the social media stalking I did in the past that I didn't notice!! She was always with her partner and wouldn't even look at him.
Anyway, last week he bumped into her alone at our local shops and she was full of joy apparently and said "Hello" very enthusiastically and stopped to talk. He said hello and kept walking and when I asked him how he felt he said when he saw her his stomach dropped and felt angry that she expected him to stop and talk.
When he told me I said that's not the end of it she would be in touch. Lo and behold, he gets an email from her asking to meet up for a coffee...
She has a relationship and two children and I'm sure she knows that my partner has moved on and now has a child. Small town, she knows some mutual friends and social media would tell you as much. Partner told me and deleted the email and said he won't reply because he wants her to think he never got it but I wanted to email her and tell her to back off. My partner disagrees with this and says it will make it worse which I don't agree with and my irrational way of thinking at times makes me think he's worried about me contacting her.
I think she's cheeky for making contact considering how they ended plus the fact that everyone has well and truly moved on. Partner tried to say meeting for a coffee doesn't mean anything but I think C'mon, don't be naive... I do trust my partner but I've trusted before...
Anyway, would you make contact or just wait and see... I know this won't be the last time she makes contact and I'm sure she will make a point to run into him again. What would you do?
Seems like a very irrelevant problem considering a lot of stuff going on but it has been bothering me!