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I'm absolutely livid!! DH has gone out for few drinks ..... and wet the bed with me in it!!

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bumblebubble23 · 01/03/2024 02:36

My partner has gone out for few drinks after work, he left around 8pm. He's arrived home at 1am. And come straight to bed. He does drink regularly, not too excessive (ish) but not like to say he isn't a drinker so can't handle it etc. He does however, begin to act like a teenager when he's had a drink and sip way too many pints excessively. This only happens if he goes out. So he goes straight to bed after getting home, I'm in bed asleep then an hour and a half later I wake to a warm sensation on my pjs and the sound of a hosepipe. It took a few attempts to wake him, but when he did he was moody, aggressive took himself away to the bathroom. Repeated phrases like I'm asleep. He hasn't once apologised, if you can imagine he's had a drink it's a massive wee! I stripped the sheets put a towel down, I'm really tired so got the spare quilt out. Next minute he rolls over taking the spare quilt with him so I have nothing. I'v now got in bed with my 4 year old, which I feel bad for as it's woke her up. As he sleeps like a log in the next room ( on the dirty mattress tho) what would you do in the morning? I'm tired I've got work he's 36 on a week night he has work, isn't it about time he grew up? I'm livid Angry

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endofagain · 01/03/2024 02:41

That is revolting. It would be a potential dealbreaker for me. He would need to apologise, replace the mattress and never drink so much again. Anyone who gets so drunk they piss the bed has a problem.

bumblebubble23 · 01/03/2024 02:44

Thank you for your reply. Yes, exactly this. I'm so angry and I'll be the one up all night now because of this. I don't know where to start with him tomorrow!! Confused

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m00ngirl · 01/03/2024 02:52

So sorry for you! This is familiar territory unfortunately... It is horrible and ridiculous behaviour on his part. It does suggest a drinking problem of some kind - even if irregular / binge drinking. Given the gravity of what he's done you're in prime position to set some rules tomorrow. This absolutely can never happen again. But I'd go quiet, leave the house early and wait for what he comes out with in the morning. Let him do the work at least at first. You've been through enough and probably just lost your mattress.

Teasie123 · 01/03/2024 02:57

Men are dirty big brutes!! They're all the same!😤😤😤

DreamTheMoors · 01/03/2024 03:04

There are adult wee pads on Amazon, @bumblebubble23— or maybe they’re big dog wee pads.
I use them for my dog (Amazon brand).
You can put them under your husband’s side between the mattress & the pad or the sheet.
Or you can throw him out and save £30.

I'm absolutely livid!! DH has gone out for few drinks ..... and wet the bed with me in it!!
coxesorangepippin · 01/03/2024 03:05

Oh god no

Just awful

caringcarer · 01/03/2024 03:05

endofagain · 01/03/2024 02:41

That is revolting. It would be a potential dealbreaker for me. He would need to apologise, replace the mattress and never drink so much again. Anyone who gets so drunk they piss the bed has a problem.

He needs to buy a new mattress. I'd wait and see if he is truly remorseful but if not I'd not want to sleep in the same bed with him again. I'd definitely not want sex with him.

vacay · 01/03/2024 03:10

Why do some men do this ? Fucking revolting

Topseyt123 · 01/03/2024 03:13

It would be marriage-ending for me. I just couldn't live with someone who did that.

Teasie123 · 01/03/2024 03:14

@bumblebubble23 , but oh, just think..all the things you could get him to buy you and all the chores u could get him to do, by way of making it up to you.🤣🤣🤣🤭🤭🤭. Make him pay missus!!

bumblebubble23 · 01/03/2024 03:21

He is revolting. I'm so angry. Leaving early tomorrow and ignoring him is a good one. He was very unapologetic when I woke him like he'd done nothing wrong, but he's obviously still drunk. I'm more annoyed as well, as he had a weird aggressive look on his face when I woke him! As tho I'm in the wrong or the bad guy for shouting at him ! He was quite angry I woke him !

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Teasie123 · 01/03/2024 03:22

@bumblebubble23 , just wait. When he Sobers up , he ll be shitting himself, not pissing himself!!🤣🤣🤣

HotChocWine · 01/03/2024 03:30

Teasie123 · 01/03/2024 02:57

Men are dirty big brutes!! They're all the same!😤😤😤

Edited

No, they are not

bumblebubble23 · 01/03/2024 03:36

Teasie123 · 01/03/2024 03:22

@bumblebubble23 , just wait. When he Sobers up , he ll be shitting himself, not pissing himself!!🤣🤣🤣

That's a good one Smile

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scoobysnaxx · 01/03/2024 03:50

Text him this link and tell him to sort himself and the bed out, you embarrassing mess!

Eric1964 · 01/03/2024 15:57

Teasie123 · 01/03/2024 02:57

Men are dirty big brutes!! They're all the same!😤😤😤

Edited

Years ago, I had a girlfriend who wet the bed regularly when she'd had too much to drink.

IvorTheEngineDriver · 01/03/2024 16:28

Buy a new matress! Have you never heard of Dettol????

AttilaTheMeerkat · 01/03/2024 16:41

He is totally responsible for the cleaning of and or purchasing a new mattress, bed linen etc. You do not do any of this.

I would consider whether this is a man you want to remain in a relationship with given you also have a child. What he has done here is revolting and additionally smacks of behaviour akin to alcoholism.

FishMouse · 01/03/2024 18:45

An ex of mine would regularly piss in the wardrobe/ drawers when drunk. He was in his twenties. I tried to fix him for far too long. It was a sign of massive problems.

Bowbobobo · 01/03/2024 19:43

My ex did that once. Just the once. He was appalled and mortified, and never did it again in 27 years. If he ever does it again, kick him to the kerb OP. Make sure he is in no doubt about that.

bumblebubble23 · 01/03/2024 20:04

Bowbobobo · 01/03/2024 19:43

My ex did that once. Just the once. He was appalled and mortified, and never did it again in 27 years. If he ever does it again, kick him to the kerb OP. Make sure he is in no doubt about that.

I've been very clear, that this will only happen once! He's been very quiet think he's embarrassed, but so he should be

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CastlesinSpain · 01/03/2024 23:18

TBH my DH has done it twice (we've been married way more years than I care to mention, so the occasions were years separated). He wasn't drunk either time - we assume he needed to go and just dreamt that he was in the loo. He was very upset about it.

Opentooffers · 01/03/2024 23:30

Tbf, if when he goes out, he acts ike a teenager and does not know his limit and is incapable of stopping drinking when he reaches it, on a work night, then he has a problem with alcohol.
I'd say, that he doesn't go as far at home, implies that he drinks at home regularly too - enough so you think he should 'handle' it. I'd suspect he's more into drinking than you realise. How many times a week, including at home would you say?

HenndigoOZ · 01/03/2024 23:34

That is gross. I don’t blame you for being furious OP.