oh horror, going out with new man and the skin on my abdomen looks like baggy crepe paper..

[allegrageller]

had ds2 11 months ago. DH and I are separating amicably. Am just starting to get interest from new bloke.

OK, so I thought I was so very confident and attractive and all that, & then I happened to catch sight of my stomach last night. Oh GOD. It looks as if it belongs to someone 60 years older. Not a portion of the lower abdomen that doesn't have stretchmarks, but the worst is the combined wrinkliness and looseness.

I immediately did some situps then gave up and cried. I actually feel as if I can't go out with him because I am such a total minger.

I know that if he objects to that kind of thing you nice mners will probably tell me he's 'not good enough' for me anyway but frankly, I fancy him and want him to fancy me. I don't want him seeing that and going 'errrr....'

What do I do, short of a tummy tuck? which I'm considering, frankly, if I come into a sudden flood of cash...

Doggy style is OK if you are on a duvet and can grab it and pile it up under your tummy, prefer it as they can't look down and see it all slapping about. I avoid mirrors too .

You know there is a lot you can do about a saggy tummy. I had really bad stratch marks but mine have gone - I used Strivectin SD and Elizabeth Arden 8 hour body cream. My tummy is now almost back to how it was. Exercise and good body cream has really helped me.

I think I need a lot more than that but can't afford surgery, I have a major overhang that has remained regardless of me losing weight

This thread is so funny - I'm glad I read it.

LOL zippi at your comment "he just takes them off"

I have always been insecure about my body - before I had kids too and have always wanted to have sex with the light off. The last man I slept with thought this was ridiculous and became frustrated that he couldn't see me properly. LOL

well he does

he was also a bit less self confident to start with but that has gone out the window

well yes you have this idea of how you can hide yourself away but you can't get away with it in the end - I have found that too lol.

I did doggy style without the aid of a duvet and he put his hands on my tummy i was mortified.

ah well i am suffering tummy slaps

think i said that on this thread

on the plu side possibly we are going on a holiday next week

plus plus side to somewhere cold lolol

Any suggestions of mildly sexy nightwear that can deal with saggy tits and tummy but not send men running to the hills? Just a bit of coverage until safely hiden under the duvet and lights out, and to sling on when nipping to to loo.

i tried that it just ends up in some ridiculous on and of scenario and what do you do when its lunchtime and there are no lights to switch off..for heavens sake i watched a john wayne film on the sofa on a sunday afternoon with no clothes on i gave up

LOL

you wont be laughing when you are my age

But you see I'm laughing because I do this - trying to hide body to no avail and I thought I was the only one who did this

The last guy I was seeing liked to do a running commentary of my body parts. I was not keen on that! And then I would feel even more self conscious and he would say "Stop being insecure!"

But you see I'm laughing because I do this - trying to hide body to no avail and I thought I was the only one who did this

The last guy I was seeing liked to do a running commentary of my body parts. I was not keen on that! And then I would feel even more self conscious and he would say "Stop being insecure!"

But you see I'm laughing because I do this - trying to hide body to no avail and I thought I was the only one who did this

The last guy I was seeing liked to do a running commentary of my body parts. I was not keen on that! And then I would feel even more self conscious and he would say "Stop being insecure!"

But you see I'm laughing because I do this - trying to hide body to no avail and I thought I was the only one who did this

The last guy I was seeing liked to do a running commentary of my body parts. I was not keen on that! And then I would feel even more self conscious and he would say "Stop being insecure!"

oops

damn I killed the thread and it was so funny too lol

Oh this is the funniest thread LOL.. I too have my own JB. LOL at the clapping.. it was my impression that when they heard this the chap in question would assuse it was down to the size of his balls ( making him feel great LOL).
never had a bad comment about mine. only thing I was told when I got caught trying to hide it was "has to be worth it tho as you grew beautiful kids in there!"
BLESS!

*assume

vixnpips - yes, I agree with the clapping sound / balls thing. Or you could pretend (to yourself, cos your DP will be assuming it's his nadgers) that it's the sound of your boobs whapping together.

I am sooooooo envious of child-bearing women who have unstretchmarked tums. I'd rather have a podgy stretchmark free tummy than a fairly flat crepey one.

Love MPs suggestion re: slipping the arms out of the top of the camisole and smooshing boobs in the face. Excellent tactic.

why would anyone do doggy in front of a mirror???

i was about to post that luckily i have never had anyone try to touch my tummy but i'm guessing that i have and no deal was made out of it which is why i can't remember.

If he fancy's you, he fancy;s you - you don't have to stand in front of him naked just yey do you??

Good luck btw - and I think we are all be set by similar insecurities, whatever our age. Take each moment as it comes is my advice - life is such!

Allegra, dont worry. Look at all the plain women around that have loving partners. Its really not about how you look.

With a new man if you really fancy him, pretty yourself up as suggested and keep the lights down low. Good luck and enjoy.

After my kids were born I had an awful tummy and boobs - I'm not sure which I was more upset about but I had a boob job LOL. Tummy is better after a LOT of work.