How often do you see your sibling /s?

[BabaYagasLittleSister]

If your sibling lives nearby (in my case 10 minutes walk) how often do you see them? Are you close? Is there a normal level?

Just wondering if my situation is normal or not. Should also add we are both adults. Im 39 and they are 44.

My sibling lives only 13 miles away, but on the other side of London so it's 60-90 mins travel time. Consequently I don't see them more than once every three months.

DB lives 25 minutes drive away, see him 4 times a year and talk nearly every day on messenger. We share the care for our parent and I feel very close to him.

Do you still suggest child free cinema trips and gigs, like you did before having children?
We don't have children, we get along with family and friends' children when we see them but we don't want to spend all our social time with other people's children.
We have some family and friends that insist that their children are involved in everything so we naturally accept less invites/invite them to do stuff less.
I do also think it's quite common to drift from siblings as you grow up and have different lifestyles and different groups of friends so wouldn't take it personally.

DB lives in Australia so see him every few years. We’ve always been close and text sometime to share music or videos that we both like.
DS lives 7 miles away. See her every few weeks at most for a dog walk/ coffee. In touch by WhatsApp often. We are there for each other without needing to be in constant touch.

Sibling one- 200 miles away. Talk most days and see each other once every 4_6 weeks
Sibling 2 .250 miles away. See her maybe once a year on family occasions
Sibling3 200 miles away. Hardly ever see him. We've got nothing really in common as adults.
We're all part of a watsapp group and keep in touch randomly through that.
That said I know if the shit hit the fan and I turned up on any of their doorsteps with the clothes on my back they would take me in and help.

my sister lives over an hour away and we see each other every month or two

if we lived closed we would probably see each other few times a week

I last spoke to my brother almost six years ago on the day of our mother's funeral. I don't miss him at all and regret the years of pretending that I had something in common with him.

Daily on the school run, in the holidays and out of school probably three times a year? I’m not counting him picking his DC up from m house and staying for five mins

DB lives 15 mins away...we meet up maybe once a month but chat a lot online. DS I saw twice in 25 years...no falling out but nothing in common.
DH has 2 siblings who live 20 mins away...he sees them about once every 2 years as they don't drive 😀

15mins away, it would be weird if I didn't see them weekly!

I never see my sister who lives about 20 minutes walk from me. She's currently not speaking to me but when she is talking to me (she has form for this) unless I bump into her at my Mums house I wouldn't see her anyway so I can't say I'm missing her.

Yes families difficult. Two siblings dont see them much but thats with me working school runs for them. Meeting one soon.

See my brother as little as possible. He's been vile over the years. We're only in touch about care for my elderly mum. Once she's gone, I don't doubt we'll never speak again

I don't, but it would always be him normally asking me to things. He still goes to the cinema and to see bands, just doesn't ask me along anymore.
Having young kids, one with special needs, I don't have time to keep up to date with what's on anymore. But he does, just doesn't ask me to join anymore. And I have invited him to lots of things - bbqs, birthday get togethers, had everyone round for father's day, but they never ask us to anything back, so I am giving up a bit. But it upsets me, because we don't have a big family. It's just us, our families and my dad - as my mum died 18 years ago.

Twin sister 25 miles away, talk every day but only see each other once a month ish due to kids work etc. brother lives in same town 10 minutes away text roughly twice a month and see him every few months!! Not fallen out or anything just life gets in the way!!

I live 2 hours from my siblings, my brothers I haven’t seen in over a year, nor have I spoken to them other than to say happy Christmas/birthday, my sister probably twice a year but do speak on phone roughly once a month. I doubt I would have anymore contact if I was closer - no really issues just not a close family. It upsets my mum that we aren’t all closer but we had an odd childhood, some big age gaps and all left home by the time we were 18 so never established adult connections

Are you sure they decided not to have children, or was it a ‘decision’ made for them?
Also it’s pretty unreasonable to complain that he doesn’t ask you to do anything like you used to do, but you don’t ask him to do anything unless it’s child-centric. Try suggesting something just the two of you, see how it goes.
To answer your question, I have five siblings, and I see them all quite often. Eldest DB is 40 minutes away and I’ll see him every couple of weeks, the rest around around an hour away and I see them every month probably. We also all talk and send photos on the group chat all the time.

It sounds like you only ever invite him to child friendly things, it would be worth making it clear you want to do an adults only event and if you're too busy to Google what's on in your area, ask him to let you know next time he hears of a good gig.
I am making assumptions based on our sibling/friend relationships but we have significantly reduced how much time we spend with the parents that only do social things if their kids are included - nothing personal, we get along with the kids, just don't want to spend that much time with them.

2-3 times a week. We live 20 mins apart.

I have another 1/2 sister lives about 40 mins away. I maybe see her maybe twice a year. We didn't grow up together like she did with 2 of her 1/2 siblings and she is therefore much closer to them. I honestly barely know her.

Eldest brother - just vanished about 10 years ago. We were close for a few years when we were younger but he just cut everyone off without ever saying why. Back in touch for a while, was going to come up and then vanished.

Second eldest brother - lives 4 hours away but not seen him in 14 years. He is a Jehovah’s Witness. I am not. That is his reason why.

Twin brother - he lives in Spain I believe. We were separated at 10 when my mum died. We lived together again for a few years when he was 16 (long story not relating here). He tried to strangle me in front of my pregnant wife. Also not spoken to him for 14 years - also because he is a Jehovah’s Witness.

I have four children and I want so much for them to be close as adults. Having brothers but not having them for no good reason just stinks

When we used to live within a 5-minute drive from my brother and sister-in-law, we would see them about three times a week. We now live about a 2 hour drive away, and we get together at least once a month. Same for my other brother who lives about the same distance away.

My sister lives across the country (US), and we see each other about twice a year, but text and talk on the phone regularly. I'm sure that if we lived close to each other, we would see each other several times a week.

I am very lucky to be close to all my siblings.

I see one sister at least three times a week.. both single .. in our 60s.. just got back from a day out in whitby.. we visit our eldest sister and brother in law once a month for Sunday dinner..they live a 90 mins drive away..

I see my daughters and Grandsons every week..

I used to see my sister most days, looking bad it was way too much. Neither of us had the freedom to grow really. Then something quite difficult happened and we fell out very badly. See each other for high days and holidays now. Doesn’t help that the source of the fall out was who she’s with now, so I’m not exactly thrilled to see him.

One sister is around 4 hours away and I see her perhaps 6 times a year but for a few days at a time. We speak most week and text in between times. We went on holiday together last year and it was fab.

Other sister moved to the other side of the world. We have a superficial chat a couple of times a year and an awkward catch up when she comes to this country for an afternoon (so maybe once every 3 years).

i have 4 siblings, all sisters... 1 i have not seen or spoken too for exactly 10 years and 4 months (basically the day i got married), 2 live 10 miles down the road, 1 of those is blocked on everything the other has chosen not to be reminded of her past by speaking too her siblings and 1 lives about 30 miles away and again blocked on everything.

i was brought up being told 'family first' and i tried, i really did, but ours was a messed up family.

i have instilled in my own children how import 'their relationship is' but at the end of the day, you cant force family relatioships on people