How often do you see your sibling /s?

[BabaYagasLittleSister]

If your sibling lives nearby (in my case 10 minutes walk) how often do you see them? Are you close? Is there a normal level?

Just wondering if my situation is normal or not. Should also add we are both adults. Im 39 and they are 44.

1 sibling. 250 miles away. Last saw them in 2001. Only 1 phone call (5min) 3 years ago when our Mother died.

I see my sister 2-3 times a week but talk on the phone most days. She’s a 10 minute drive away. My brother is living in another country at present and worked away from home previously but I’d see him at least twice every time he was home for his week off. We are all incredibly close. I miss my brother terribly.

A few times a year. They've moved unfortunately. We speak every day!

My sister is 2 hr drive away. See her about once every 4 - 6 weeks. She’s bloody good company

Dbro lives 15 mins away - see him every few weeks, sometimes more sometimes less. Big age difference so we don't socialise together much though.
Dsis lives in another country so once or twice a year. Message regularly, speak every month or so. Again, big age gap so we're not super close.
I get on with them both but it's not a chat every day kind of sibling relationship - they were adults before I was even born.

Don't see.

Both siblings live within 5/10 minute walk, brother I see every week/2 weeks
Sister every couple of months, only if we happen to be in my parents at the same time.

Both my siblings live within a 15 minute drive of me. I see them both on average about once a month. Love them both dearly, very close with them both but somehow don’t see them as much as we’d all like.
I see dh’s siblings a lot more, love them all dearly too, they all live about a 5 minute drive from us (well, apart from the ones who live abroad and we see them every few years).

2-3 times a year, we're not close and all have busy lives.

1st sibling passed away suddenly almost 2 years ago, I spend every day wishing I could see him 😥

2nd sibling a 5 min drive away but we only really see each other at our parents house or birthdays and Christmas etc. he works alot and he's busy with his gf and I'm busy with dh, 3 kids and work but we talk and message often.

I see and speak to my sister on a regular basis, my brother no so much.

We see each other about 2 or 3 times a week, sometimes more.

Im an only child but adore my in-laws..

DSil lives 100 mins away. We see her roughly every month. Group messages every day. She has just spent a week with her mum who lives close to her. We've seen them 5 times this week.

DBil lives 90 mins away in the other direction. We see him and family twice a month or more (we have similar aged kids who love each other).

We do a week family holiday every year, usually also a long weekend camping and a ladies only spa weekend

Buuut I'm on maternity and have time to do this

Her mum lives close to US I mean

We live in the same (big) city as my sister, and my husband’s brother (both approx a 30 mins drive away in different directions or hour on public transport) and probably see my sister 1-2 times a month and my BIL once a month.

Not often, we were close when we were younger but not now. There's still an element of trust there though. We only communicate about parent issues, sometimes money.

DH has a brother about 30 minutes away. We see him maybe 6 times a year.

when my sister lived close, I saw her at least once a week

Ah OK, quite a lot of variation there.

I used to see my brother quite a lot. Maybe once a week or more. Would go to the cinema together, to see bands. But in recent years we have drifted apart and I feel sad about that really. I had children and him and his wife decided not to, and for some reason they have decided to distance themselves fron it all. Maybe they just don't like children. But he gets on great with the kids when he does see them, and they both love him. If I invite them over for a bbq or something they will come, but never reciprocate.

I guess that is quite normal though to drift away.

50 and 52. He lives an hour away. Not seen him or had contact for over two years. We never got on really.
No other siblings. Both parents dead.

My only sibling (brother) lives 400 miles away. Haven’t seen him in person for over 10 years, but we do exchange occasional WhatsApp messages and I encourage my adult children to send him Christmas and birthday messages etc.
We really don’t have a lot in common and his behaviour after our parents died was appalling (he wasn’t happy about his share of the inheritance) so I’m not making too much effort to increase contact. I find him exhausting and draining to be honest.

But it’s sad, as my DH doesn’t see his siblings that much either, so we have become a very small family!

If my sister was 10 mins away we'd see each other daily for sure. She's over an hour away and we both have young kids so it's roughly once every 2 weeks sadly

Brothers live in America so not often especially post covid though we do msg, one is better than the other. I used to see one of them every year as he was on business but has now retired.

Sisters live a couple of hundred miles away in opposing directions see one a couple of times a year and speak and msg once a month. Other has multiple health issues and doesn’t want visitors currently, which is hard but needs respecting but we msg all the time.

Other sister I am NC with her, this isn’t flippant with minor squabbles she did some utterly heinous stuff, criminal but no proof. Her children have also been to prison. We all basically cut them off.

I haven’t seen my parents since December 2022 - I dropped off presents. We saw them for tea in October 2022. But they have ignored us for 3 years and I have seen or spoken to them for over a year now.

I last saw my sister about 6 years ago I popped in for a cup of tea / her husband went out and she was vile to he 6 year old son constantly shouting at him and her huge dogs repeatedly knocked my 4 year old over and humped him repeatedly. She gave us water to drink. 😂and that’s it.

Haven't seen my brother for 16 years. No great loss there.

I live with her ! 30 and 28, both single and not keen on house shares with randoms. We are very close and also share several hobbies, go to groups together.

I live 200+ miles away from both of mine. I see them usually when I go up to visit my mum every 3 months or so or they come to visit us or we meet and have a few days in a hotel halfway. On average maybe 12 times over the year but focused on a few days then a gap for a few months. We are relatively close. My sister is now retired and they are moving nearer us so I may see her more and we go on holiday with my brother as he doesn't have a partner.