I am the ‘crazy’ abusive ex

[Pompomtree]

I am the crazy ex.

I am the completely unreasonable woman that drove him to cheat repeatedly. I was just so awful. I am the reason he left his children and hardly sees them. I am unhinged and make his life unnecessarily hard.

This is what the other women thought of me at the time. Any one else been in this club?

@PyongyangKipperbang I used into have arguments like this 😫😫😫

@Unexpectedlysinglemum she didn't want kids. Or a relationship. Apparently it was like having sex with a friend and she said she has now taken the time to look at her own morals...

Some people are just arseholes 🤷🏼‍♀️

They are indeed. I think as good people we think 'how could someone good do something so bad' and try to rationalize but yes of course arseholes will just arsehole about selfishly :-( she took a horrid
Man away from you and left space in your life for happiness single or with someone nicer

Me! Goodness me the things they said!

My favourite part was when ex and OW wrote a statement to court listing every single vile, abusive thing they'd done to me and my children as if I had done them. I couldn't believe what I was reading. Fortunately the Judge had a very good grip of things.

It's nice to know you're far from alone with this batshittery.

I've been triggered now, I keep thinking of things!

My ex told his solicitor that we hadn't had sex for 6 years and that was his grounds for divorce. Didn't mention he'd been having a long term affair or that we had a two year old who was clearly the result of an immaculate conception

"I knew the day after our wedding that I had made a mistake". The very same man who asked me to marry him a week after we got together. And then hung around for 15 years.

What I did get comfort from was the fact that OW told anybody who would listen that I was "nuts" and "dangerous" but not a single person believed any of it because they knew her. That helped me a lot in my recovery.

I wonder if she still shudders when seeing a pineapple

It's amazing how i had the power to force him to have sex with a colleague but I couldn't get him to pick his pants up off the floor. I have the ability to control someone so much that I could run all the known universe.

I'm the crazy ex for calling out the gaslighting and stonewalling, for trying to de-rail the divorce after he confessed to living with his now girlfriend. Despite still using the same narrative that he needed to buy a house for his kids, that live with me and only see him eow. Despite already having a house with the girlfriend and earning almost triple what I did. But, yeah. I'm the crazy ex!!

I’m in this club too- I’m the crazy ex who only made dinner for my ex because I needed to eat, otherwise he would have starved.
so that’s why he had an affair..

Me too. I left my ex after meeting my now DH (29 years ago) but after years of different types of abuse, some of it witnessed by friends etc. Ex still told everyone that I was the psycho, had treated him badly, slept with various men, trapped him into pregnancy (despite being on the pill). He still feels and says the same things all this time later too.

It took a few years but in time, many friends actually apologised to me and accepted that he'd lied etc. He doesn't really have any real relationship with our adult ds and grandson now - he's avoided significant birthday celebrations and even his wedding so he won't be in the same room as me! Only his wife and daughter still suck up all his bullshit these days.