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Husband's attitude since diagnosis

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Lidlisthebusiness · 12/02/2024 18:38

So a couple of weeks ago, I was admitted to hospital and diagnosed Type 1 diabetic. It's been a huge shock, and every day there is more and more information that I need to learn about and understand. It's overwhelming! I had to tell him via text what was going on, and I got some strange replies from him. It all went wrong when I mentioned something on a phone call and he's actually blaming me for having diabetes. He says I could've eaten better and done more fitness over the years and then this may not have happened. Despite me countering this with the fact there are high level athletes who are in tip top condition with type 1, and it's something you're born with, he's saying it's my fault and I've impacted him and our children horribly by having it. As if I chose this. He started shouting at me over the video call, shaking the phone in anger and ended up hanging up on me. We haven't spoken all day, and I really don't know where to go from here. I'm so disappointed and sad that this is his reaction. What about in sickness and in health? What if it was a different illness, a cancer I couldn't have prevented? I don't know what to do, and really don't need this on top of the diagnoses. I was hoping his initial reaction was caused by concern for me, or the worry that he isn't home, but it seems he's just angry with me for not going to the gym and eating better to prevent and unpreventable illness.

OP posts:
Suchagroovyguy · 13/02/2024 14:23

Wow. He’s a cunt. A really, really stupid one. Unforgivable reaction..

pikkumyy77 · 27/04/2024 12:45

Passingthethyme · 13/02/2024 05:02

Kindly, isn't he right to some extent? I have a lot of family members with diabetes and my understanding is it can be controlled to some extent before it moves to this. If not, correct and educate him?

That’s not kind. HTH.

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