Calling Madamez and any other sex experts - What is normal for a woman's sexual peak?

[TooHornyForMyHubby]

Not really sure where to start here. Basically, I am horny as hell and can't really understand where it has all come from.

I am 29 and suddenly I just want sex anytime, any place. And not just any old sex, but a dirty, lustful kind of sex.

Fortunately, most of this attention is focused on my husband. I still fancy the pants off him. The problem is that he has never had a very high sex drive. In the past we have just about muddled through, but now I just want it so much more than him.

The sex we have is fantastic and I'd love to have more of it, but as that ain't happening my mind is starting to wander.

Is this kind of sexual peak at all normal for a woman?!?!?

I totally want to endorse what firefly said. I had a similar experience to you recently but went for the sex option and ended up head over heels in love with the shagman - and it's all been very painful.

The thing is - when my dp saw him with me and how attentive and flirty he was it made him suddenly very passionate towards me again - so I think you could try and stir things up a little - but don't tell him outright.

It's fantastic that you still fancy your dp - I do wish you every success, there is some really good advice here from others - just don't do the get-it-out-of-your-system-fuck thing - it's not worth it even if it's the shag of your life. Trust me. x

MummyBrains - I am loving your idea of stirring things up a little! I really think that is the kind of thing that would make him sit up and take notice. Just not sure how to make him aware of the fact that other blokes still fancy me & of the possibility that I could stray, without being too obvious about it and just making him angry.

that you have had a painful experience. Did your partner find out about the shag?

Well it was chicken and egg. I was attracted to shagman so started acting sexier almost usubconsciously around dp - buying fabulous underwear - always looking my best - trying out new things in bed. I even lost 2 stone! So I don't know which came first for DP - whether he noticed me being hotter and bucked his ideas up - or whether he did feel rather threatened - whichever it certainly woke him up a lot. I did also talk about shagman a fair bit - this wound him up - don't recommend.

Since you ask - he didn't find out about me actually shagging Shagman - but he realised I have invested a lot of emotion in him and this has cut him up. It's only because (married) shagman got the guilts and has acted like a twat towards me leaving me confused and guilty as hell.

The fantasy was just that - fantastic but unreal. You are so lucky to still fancy your bloke. With me it goes in phases - I'm 39 - and I have to agree that it's usually thinking about someone else that gets me going and jumped on the first attractive guy that showed me attention. Sometimes I can go for months without even wanting sex and then other times I'm like you.

Are you pretty sure that his mind's not wandering elsewhere? Horrible thought - but I know that dp didn't have a clue about me for a long time..

Can totally emphasise with your chicken and egg scenario. I think that is what has perked things up a bit in our relationship a bit lately.

My kids are both in school now and so I have that little bit more time to look after myself. This has a big impact psychologically.

I think hubby very much takes me for granted. Sees me as a wife and mother and a bit past it. In a way, I suppose I have acted like that since having babies. But that is all changing now they are not babies anymore.

Recently I have started going out on the p!ss with my girlfriends again. This is something have not done for about 5 years and I loving it! I am thinking of getting hubby out one night when I go out so we can relive a bit of our youth together rather than me doing it by myself.

sorry...been out for a while... XH got the energy from the hormones I believe. Also it was not really that he lacked physical energy, rather it was emotional energy IYSWIM.

I think you hit the nail on the head with being wife and mother. I really like the idea of you going out with mates...flirt a bit and so on. Get DH go to same pub with mates at same time. Pretend you don't know each other....Perhaps if he saw you in that context it might light the fires again.