Yes I do think they do eventually find it boring and that's when the game ends either by leaving and discarding the victim or remaining and not in any way shape or form pretending to put the mask on and off again, it stays off and that's when it's a very dangerous teritory for a woman to be in. It is very difficult to escape a narcissist who doesn't want their victim to leave., and the ones that do leave tend to have foothold still on the discarded partner. Control, control, control.
Who knows why they act like this, maybe it's partly nature and nurture, upbringing and deficiencies, or abnormalities in the brain. Until such time as we will scan someone and say yes, this person has deficits in empathy due to the anterior insular cortex, bla, bla, bla then we have to go on educating younger women of the signs of someone seriously lacking empathy, tendancies for cruely and the warnings that go with remaining with this type of character and the devastation it can lead to, and it only ever gets worse not better, always an upwards trajectory of cruelty, in the home at least, outside of the home the stage has already been set that they are of good character.
It's a tick box list for narcisists, each type will have their own methods but generally the early aims are confusion in the home, the misallignment of action and words, creating the lies that keeps the victim hooked. Then the negativity, you don't understand at first that you accomodating them all the time is actually their devine right to everything. You will argue fairness, your problems will never be heard or solved, we've now got to the banality and pointlessness of it, you stop arguing.
This is a win for them, this means they now have control, from there they have you depressed, exhausted and unable to be happy, even better, you won't want to socialise, this leaves them free to be happy to the outside world whilst you are a prisoner in your own mind. You are now the problem, internally and externally, it's at this point where you will find lack of understanding of your predicament the norm as you appeal to others. Are we reaching that point yet op ? You will soon stop asking those in real life, they don't understand.
And it get's better as you age, motherhood will isolate you, parents will pass away, siblings maybe distanced and friends will never understand. They want you on your own, isolated, in pain and miserable.
Why?, just because they can, so these threads abouts narcs are very much needed because the next stages can and are usually horrific with many of the victims not surviving to tell the tale.
I would claim many of the female suicides are with living with narcissitic men.
So I absolutely applaud having a site like this whereby women can share views and information about very real and evil people, they do exist.
Don't shut down the conversations and don't minimise someones pain or confusion, it's very difficult to pinpoint the exact route every narc takes, they are cunning, manipulative, devious and strategic to name but a few tactics, total mindfucks and their currency is misery. They take the joy out of everthing for you, not themselves, but you are not allowed joy, or freedom of mind.
I don't think there can be enough information and guidance to prevent someone being tied or enslaved to these people, it can be a life sentence only ending in death, which is very often the case.