Is this weird behaviour? BF physically moves me to the side.

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We have been dating for about 7/8 months exclusively and it has been lovely, no complaints.

But I've noticed lately that a couple of times, always when we are in his house, always by the staircase where I live my things (shoes, coats, bag etc) and we are both getting ready to leave, and he needs to go upstairs or he is coming from upstairs, or he needs to get past me and I'm on the way and did have enough awareness to move, he holds me with both hands and simply moves me to the side - I think at the beginning of the relationship, he might have said 'excuse me' I don't exactly remember.

I don't recall anyone doing this to me before so it struck me as odd behaviour. It is not abrupt and he doesn't do it in a rude way, it seems like he does it in a practical way but he has such lovely manners all the time that this really stands out as weird.

What do you think?

Ummm I personally feel like it depends on his demeanour. I had a boyfriend do this to me before and I didn't think anything of it really, as long as it's not aggressive it might just be a mannerism of his. Some people are like that - they put hands on your shoulders or touch you on the wrist or something when talking and this is sorta the same thing.

The only caveat is AS LONG AS it's not aggressive.

Is he moving you or steadying you? I think my husband does this. But it is more like, he needs to squeeze past me and does not want to push or knock me as he does it so he sort of holds me steady while he does it. I kind of like it TBH.

This is a good point, I’d have to pay more attention once it happens again. Although he doesn’t steady me when we are on each other’s way in the kitchen but I have more awareness in the kitchen and he is usually holding something when cooking. When we are not holding hands and about to cross the road, if there are no teaffic lights, sometimes he kind holds me to protect me from the traffic lol even if I’m by his side or slightely behind

I can’t stand anyone being in my space when I am busy, especially if they are taking their time or dawdling, if I could physically pick people up I probably would. I wouldn’t mean it in a horrible way but thinking about it I can see how it would be perceived as being really odd. I expect he is like me, impatient and wants to be somewhere. It’s his problem, same as it’s mine. Just tell him if you want me to move say excuse me and don’t be so bloody rude.

Not right now cheers.

I think we do this to each other in my family. Gently steer someone out of the way if they’re unknowingly in the way somewhere and concentrating on something else. We would alternatively say excuse me etc, but if it all seems very minor, and they’re busy doing something like putting a scarf on, we might just steer them to the side. We would all do it to each other, it’s not a dominance thing.

Yeah that's strange, and I very much doubt he would try that with another man.

Also - have you told him you don't want him to do that?