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sick of dh being a selfish git

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milkgoddess · 21/03/2008 11:50

eally pissed off, this is my first easter off work ever, as i normally work,all over easter, but am on mat leave at the moment

anyway our grass has not been cut yet this year. and it looks a right state as it really needed one last cut before winter but dh always leaves it and id got a newborn so i couldn't do it.

so last night dh says he wants to go to the gym on good friday. so i feel a bit pissed off but eventally say ok then, as i don't want the weekend to turn into a row
then this am i said to dh why dont you go to the gym now and get it over and done with then he said oh its not open til 10am so by the time hes back and showered it will be 1pm half the day gone.

anyway i saw it was a nice day and said oh we reallt need to get the grass cut this weekend, and he said oh i wont want to do that today blah blah
and that he'd do it on monday
i said well it might rain for the rest of the weekend it best to get it,over and done with.
he still said no i don't want to

so when i was getting ready this am as he couldnt go to the gym till 10, and i had to ask dh to get dd up as i was in the bath and she was crying, when dh was about to take dd downstairs, he realised he didnt hav a bid, i got on for him, he just took it so i said thankyou i s the word i think your looking for, he replied no i think you ment thankyou for feeding dd!
as if she only my baby

anyway then when i came down, he'd fed dd her milk with a dirty teat. she had snot all over her face she must of sneezed as shes got a bit of a cold at the mo, and he obv didnt wipe it.
and she was in a dirty nappy.
dd was playing on her playmat and he was on the laptop

no wonder he thinks i don;t do anything all day if this is his level of babycare.

so now ive cut the front lawn and am half way through the back.
had to stop as dd was crying.

he is also usless at diy and car stuff etc.
yet has the cheek to critasise me. saying that i don't work etc [yes im on fucking maternity leave! ]

sometimes i think id be better off on my own.

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themildmanneredbunny · 21/03/2008 11:52

oh sweetheart

milkgoddess · 21/03/2008 11:53

thanks

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posieflump · 21/03/2008 11:54

it's just bank holiday blues
everyone has an idealistic view of how things will be , what will get done etc etc

why don't you and dd go swimming when he's at the gym

or shopping with his credit card

themildmanneredbunny · 21/03/2008 11:55

yes-are you a member of the gym too?
go with him and the two of you get in the pool-that's a great idea.
how old is your little one?

milkgoddess · 21/03/2008 11:55

well dd has a bit of cold so swimming out but i see you pov, i could take her the the park wrapped up warm, after ive finished the back garden of course

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milkgoddess · 21/03/2008 11:56

9 months

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posieflump · 21/03/2008 11:56

why don't you say to him either you mow the lawn or I will use your money to pay someone who will?!!

milkgoddess · 21/03/2008 11:58

lol posie i like that one

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themildmanneredbunny · 21/03/2008 11:58

tbh - oi would leave the back garden. it's very cold and windy. is the grass damp from all the rain we've had? if so it shouldn't be cut anyway.

purpleduck · 21/03/2008 12:12

This can't really be about the lawn/going to the gym right? The lawn thing does seem a bit small to get so worried about.

Is that just the final straw?

Gather your thoughts (ie, figure out the big issue) and sit him down, and have a talk.
Good luck

milkgoddess · 21/03/2008 12:44

thanks guys feeling better now, i did finish back lawn, having lunch now dh made it
then we are all going out together

suppose i sometimes feel we come 2nd to the gym, dh even went to the gym about 2days after dd was born .

and that whole dirty teat snotty face wasnt a great to the day, bet hay ho rest of the long weekend to enjoy now.

thanks for your support

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milkgoddess · 21/03/2008 12:54

poise flump thats actually a good idea about paying somone to do it, wonder how much it would cost ?

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