My partner hasn't come home

[2amclubx]

Basically my parter went out with a friend this afternoon told me he'd be home for 10! Messaged me and said he's having fun will be later it's now half 3 his phone is off and I can't get a hold of him this is very odd behaviour the friend that hes with I don't really trust he takes cocaine When he's out and as far as I'm aware my partner doesn't this friend he hasn't seen for awhile but I'm now worried this friend is staying in a hotel do I call??? I have no contact bar Facebook for the friend last active 7 hours ago I'm really worried haven't slept at this point a little message would be fine but I haven't heard from him since 7ish he never ever does this I mean never..

I'm just looking for someone to talk to I'm stressed creating things in my head

He went out, got pissed and is sleeping at his friend's hotel room.
Message was on the wall when he said he was having fun.
Has he taken drugs historically with.this friend? If so, you can bet he has done so again.
Very inconsiderate of him to have you awake worrying while he is either still out partying or passed out.

Hes a big boy, he'll come crawling back tomorrow with the mother of all hangovers. Don't we all love to hoover early on a Saturday morning? 😄

If something more serious than him having got trollied and his phone battery running out had happened to him, you'd have heard about it.

I’m sure he is fine, but he won’t be tomorrow when he is hung over and in the dog house.

The “friend” is a bad influence but ultimately your DP has decided to go along with it. It might be a one off but if it becomes a pattern you’ll have to decide whether you’re happy to continue with the relationship or not.

My exH was like this, it was binge drinking that caused him to stay out all night as well as drink driving so it was the alcoholism, not the staying out all night that did it.

If he’s taken coke, it turns people into dicks.

I think he's probably fine, but I'd be unimpressed when he comes home.

Lots of threads on Mumsnet lately about disappearing husbands. They have all turned up.

Usually with their tail between their legs. One guy got arrested overnight for drink driving.

I hope you're ok and try and get some sleep. I predict he will crawl out of the woodwork feeling like utter shit.

If he’s out all night with a friend who uses coke he almost certainly has too. He’ll say he hasn’t though.

Keep your energy for when he comes back.
The most likely is that he got drunk and is sleeping in his friend sofa.
Not to worry until you know the truth, I know is easy to say.
Bad things can happen all the time with texts or without them.

Is he home yet op?

Well you know where he is as he told you. Problem is, you don’t trust him and his mate.

@2amclubx is he home yet???

He came In half 8 hadn't been to bed and was absolutely wrecked so he's definitely been up to no good he's still asleep and I need to figure out how to go about this when he wakes up. I'm really
Not happy can't bare
To look at him.

Start the hoovering. Outside the bedroom door, with some background music going on

@2amclubx throw a pot of water on him!! he doesnt get to go out all night and stay in bed all day!! you want a full explanation of everything he got up to last night and exactly how much he spent!!!

Why does he need to say how much he spent? Assuming it is his money of course…..

Any update?

We have separate accounts he got up at tea time has admitted doing it says he regrets it blah blah blah said it won't happen again and is absolutely useless today he's so rough it's unbelievable(glad lol) it's just gonna make me worry everytime
He goes out now as I know he's
Done
It. I dunno I'm still annoyed which he knows he's been sucking up my arse

Did he admit to using drugs?

My ex used to frequently go off radar. Going out for a few pints, being out of contact, rolling in the next day, hungover, grumpy and full of bullshit apologies.
At 1st I'd be frantic with worry, terrified something awful had happened.
Eventually I realised what a waste of energy worrying was.
Nothing bad had ever happened.
But it was definitely one of the many nails in the coffin of our marriage.

Birds of a feather flock together.

you dont like his friend as he makes poor choices and does coke. Your partner was out all afternoon and night and does coke. That is who he is. That’s what his circle does. And you no longer trust him. Rightly so.

the only thing you can do is choose how you respond. You cannot control someone else.

do you want to stay with someone you can’t trust and who does coke which you dont agree with?

or do you want to leave him and find someone who shares your values?

what you dont have a choice about is his behaviour.

He is not going to change so you better think if this is the kind of man who you wish to build life with.

Coke heads are right wankers. You can do better

Yes he admitted it he said he doesn't know why he done regrets it ect I just can't even listen to him I've ti like just to stay in the spare room cause he knew how I felt about this and chose to do it anyway said he was very drunk and sorry