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He should cum at least 2x a day on holiday?

89 replies

Pandapaws20 · 28/01/2024 13:45

So I used to be a traveller and travelled 2/3 times a year when I got with my partner he knew this and made empty promises and we never went anywhere for the whole time we have been together (we also had a baby) but no excuse as we never went away before the baby so I booked a break for us which cost around £800 he was happy etc and we just went away for it last week now we had to travel from gatwick which was 2 hours away and he made a few comments to say next time I should consult him as he would never go from an airport so far, we didn’t sleep the day we got there and we just explored and the next day he was like “I was proud of you, if you wanted to sleep yesterday you would have ruined my holiday” he also commented on the amount I spent. Now valentines is coming and I’ve already told him I want him to take initiative and plan things and be more decisive and stuff but he keeps now asking me what do you want to di for valentines etc like idk how I feel about this. Bearing in mind I tried to end our relationship but he said he was going to step up as I was doing everything from chores to planning to cooking to taking care of the baby the rent the bills and working. And he has started to do chores but these comments threw me off. Our sex life took a hit after the baby and the lack of support from him but whilst away I made the effort to be sexually active with him. One one of the days we had sex in the morning went out most the day came back to rest and I was exhausted and he tried to get intimate I told him no as I’m tired and he got into a bit of a huff and had a nap when he woke up he wasnt talking to me until we got to the activity we had planned so like 30 mins later. And then on the last day of the break he said he should cum at least 2 times a day whilst on holiday as it’s fair and it puts him in a better mood and his a better person after it and nicer. I felt sick at this comment as it made me feel like it shouldn’t be an expectation like that but I said nothing because I cba for the confrontation. And 2 days ago I had a covered long sleeved top on with no cleavage or anything on show and we had a delivery I went and got the delivery from the door and he got funny with me saying you could see everything you need to wear a bra, I told him but you can’t even see anything he was like well I want you to wear a bra next time. Am I being over the top about his comments or is there something more to them and am I right to not feel happy/comfortable

OP posts:
GrazingSheep · 28/01/2024 14:50

Another baby with a useless father

Bananalanacake · 28/01/2024 14:50

I can't understand why women get together with men who don't work, unless he worked when they met and then lost his job. And if he's working PT he should be looking after DC, cleaning and cooking meals as he has more time.

Jollyoldfruit · 28/01/2024 14:51

GrazingSheep · 28/01/2024 14:50

Another baby with a useless father

There’s always a baby. Poor kid.

Bluenotgreen · 28/01/2024 14:52

He’s absolutely disgusting.

I don’t understand why you mention being a traveler. Are you saying there’s a cultural expectation?

LaTricoteuseVieux · 28/01/2024 14:56

Bluenotgreen · 28/01/2024 14:52

He’s absolutely disgusting.

I don’t understand why you mention being a traveler. Are you saying there’s a cultural expectation?

I think OP means she likes to go abroad, or at least go places two or three times a year.

It's a confusing way to put it 🙂

Sweden99 · 28/01/2024 14:58

Pandapaws20 · 28/01/2024 14:02

He only started working after over a year. I am paying the bills and rent but he said he will contribute £500 towards it as he is working part time only. With the flights that he complained about my dad drove us there so I wasn’t sure why he was even moaning

I swear, I pretty much only come across these things on MN.

Ifeellikeateenageragain · 28/01/2024 14:58

OP, it's controlling. You probably don't see it right now but it is about putting you in your place in different ways. Please make moves to get out of this relationship.

Bluenotgreen · 28/01/2024 14:59

LaTricoteuseVieux · 28/01/2024 14:56

I think OP means she likes to go abroad, or at least go places two or three times a year.

It's a confusing way to put it 🙂

Oh I see.

Repulsive waste of space.

Being single is so much better than the way you are living OP. Get rid of him.

Snowdogsmitten · 28/01/2024 15:00

Harrysmummy246 · 28/01/2024 14:44

Can't make sense of OP without paragraphs etc sorry

Sorry you’re unable to read very well. Maybe start with Biff, Chip and Kipper. They’ll get you up to speed.

Also, those in glass houses and all that, you’ve not used a sniff of punctuation.

ChangeAgain2 · 28/01/2024 15:00
Selena Gomez Cooking GIF by Max

My facial expressions reading the OP

PossumintheHouse · 28/01/2024 15:01

Snowdogsmitten · 28/01/2024 15:00

Sorry you’re unable to read very well. Maybe start with Biff, Chip and Kipper. They’ll get you up to speed.

Also, those in glass houses and all that, you’ve not used a sniff of punctuation.

snorts 😂😂😂

ThirtyThrillionThreeTrees · 28/01/2024 15:04

You don't need him to cum, you need him to GO 😬

Alwaysgoingforit · 28/01/2024 15:04

Revolting title, revolting bloke.

Cherrysoup · 28/01/2024 15:10

He sounds repulsive.

DonnaBanana · 28/01/2024 15:10

To be fair most people are more chilled and happier if they have orgasms but say you want your two a day first!

Playingintheshadow · 28/01/2024 15:14

What a fucking creep. What on earth possessed you to have a baby with this piece of shit?!! When he wasn't even working???

Muffin777 · 28/01/2024 15:14

Why do women procreate with these losers

cupcakesarelife · 28/01/2024 15:15

do you want your child learning things from this man?

PorpoiseWithPurpose · 28/01/2024 15:16

Bin it.

OneMorePlant · 28/01/2024 15:16
I Think You Should Leave Tim Robinson GIF by NETFLIX

What are you doing to yourself?

cordeliachaseatemyhandbag · 28/01/2024 15:17

Tell him to buy a doll.

Then LTB

Mitsky · 28/01/2024 15:17

Congratulations, yet another woman on mumsnet who has chosen to bring a child into a shitshow of a relationship.

Imbusytodaysorry · 28/01/2024 15:20

He gives me the creeps OP
All I read was about him . Me me me
my needs , he’s a selfish pig

Expect nothing for valentines then you won’t be disappointed. Sit back and see what’s next . Then make your plan to leave you deserve better.
He has clipped your wings . Take your Dd and go live a life with happiness travel and adventure . Drop the controlling jealous selfish arse. .

therealcookiemonster · 28/01/2024 15:28

Nanny0gg · 28/01/2024 14:27

There are so many threads like this

How have we brought up a generation of women with such low self-worth?

Can't all be down to SM can it?

I think women have always put up with shit... at least now we have the opportunity to leave if we want

@Pandapaws20 OP the holiday comment are the least of your problems. you have yourself a grade 1 cocklodger. get rid before he knocks you up again

Lifeomars · 28/01/2024 15:30

So basically you do everything and pay for everything and all he does is whine, complain, criticise and demand sex. He will never change apart from becoming more entrenched in his entitled unpleasantness. You and your little one deserve so much better