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He should cum at least 2x a day on holiday?

89 replies

Pandapaws20 · 28/01/2024 13:45

So I used to be a traveller and travelled 2/3 times a year when I got with my partner he knew this and made empty promises and we never went anywhere for the whole time we have been together (we also had a baby) but no excuse as we never went away before the baby so I booked a break for us which cost around £800 he was happy etc and we just went away for it last week now we had to travel from gatwick which was 2 hours away and he made a few comments to say next time I should consult him as he would never go from an airport so far, we didn’t sleep the day we got there and we just explored and the next day he was like “I was proud of you, if you wanted to sleep yesterday you would have ruined my holiday” he also commented on the amount I spent. Now valentines is coming and I’ve already told him I want him to take initiative and plan things and be more decisive and stuff but he keeps now asking me what do you want to di for valentines etc like idk how I feel about this. Bearing in mind I tried to end our relationship but he said he was going to step up as I was doing everything from chores to planning to cooking to taking care of the baby the rent the bills and working. And he has started to do chores but these comments threw me off. Our sex life took a hit after the baby and the lack of support from him but whilst away I made the effort to be sexually active with him. One one of the days we had sex in the morning went out most the day came back to rest and I was exhausted and he tried to get intimate I told him no as I’m tired and he got into a bit of a huff and had a nap when he woke up he wasnt talking to me until we got to the activity we had planned so like 30 mins later. And then on the last day of the break he said he should cum at least 2 times a day whilst on holiday as it’s fair and it puts him in a better mood and his a better person after it and nicer. I felt sick at this comment as it made me feel like it shouldn’t be an expectation like that but I said nothing because I cba for the confrontation. And 2 days ago I had a covered long sleeved top on with no cleavage or anything on show and we had a delivery I went and got the delivery from the door and he got funny with me saying you could see everything you need to wear a bra, I told him but you can’t even see anything he was like well I want you to wear a bra next time. Am I being over the top about his comments or is there something more to them and am I right to not feel happy/comfortable

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PossumintheHouse · 28/01/2024 14:21

So much disgustingness.

I wouldn’t have gone on holiday with this piece of shit in the first place, but if my partner had kicked off the holiday by saying this to me:

he was like “I was proud of you, if you wanted to sleep yesterday you would have ruined my holiday”

I would have told him to fuck himself up to the moon. Not to mention his ridiculous, entitled cum comments. Absolutely hideous. Laughable, if it wasn’t so sad.

Tell him to piss off with his £500 and find a new sucker.

Snowdogsmitten · 28/01/2024 14:24

Have some self respect and kick him out. This man is one of the most disgusting I’ve read about on here, and that’s saying something.

Mitherations · 28/01/2024 14:24

I would be putting this one out with the recyling and changing the locks.

What aspect of him that you haven't mentioned is so positive that it outweighs this horror show?

YouJustDoYou · 28/01/2024 14:25

This is no life to live. Bin him, he's a gross manipulator.

YouJustDoYou · 28/01/2024 14:26

"I would have told him to fuck himself up to the moon. Not to mention his ridiculous, entitled cum comments. Absolutely hideous. Laughable, if it wasn’t so sad"

Urgh, he's disgusting isn't he? What a vile dickhead. You're worth better than that op.

Nanny0gg · 28/01/2024 14:27

There are so many threads like this

How have we brought up a generation of women with such low self-worth?

Can't all be down to SM can it?

ProfessorInkling · 28/01/2024 14:30

Oh OP surely you deserve someone you can respect.

Nmw09 · 28/01/2024 14:32

Pandapaws20 · 28/01/2024 14:02

He only started working after over a year. I am paying the bills and rent but he said he will contribute £500 towards it as he is working part time only. With the flights that he complained about my dad drove us there so I wasn’t sure why he was even moaning

Why did you leave this crucial information out of the OP? Is it not strange to you that he not only doesn't lift a finger (until recently) but he also doesn't contribute financially. Why are you with him? Go get a man who works full time and can pay 50/50 on rent, bills, holidays and enjoy the rest of your life. Father of your child or not, you don't need to settle.

IncompleteSenten · 28/01/2024 14:35

Ew.

Tell him nobody's stopping him, hand him a tissue and point him in the direction of the bathroom.

QueenBitch666 · 28/01/2024 14:36

Why the fk are you with such a scrofulous repugnant wanker?
Your bar is scraping the floor

Callingat · 28/01/2024 14:36

He’s broken send him back

IncompleteSenten · 28/01/2024 14:37

Nanny0gg · 28/01/2024 14:27

There are so many threads like this

How have we brought up a generation of women with such low self-worth?

Can't all be down to SM can it?

No.
Women have been being treated like shit forever. It's only that social media has shown us just how many women live like this whereas we didn't know what went on behind closed doors before.

Thelnebriati · 28/01/2024 14:37

''I tried to end our relationship but he said he was going to step up as I was doing everything from chores to planning to cooking to taking care of the baby the rent the bills and working.''

He isn't a partner, he's a cocklodger. Ask him if his arms are painted on and send him packing.

Newchapterbeckons · 28/01/2024 14:38

You were right the first time op: end it and stop servicing another entitled parasite.

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 28/01/2024 14:39

Grim. Don’t you and your child deserve better?

AdoraBell · 28/01/2024 14:40

Ick in the extreme. If he wants 2 orgasms per day he can achieve that all by himself.

whynotwhatknot · 28/01/2024 14:41

and youre with him again why?

Rosscameasdoody · 28/01/2024 14:41

Christ. Why are you still with this horror ?

Harrysmummy246 · 28/01/2024 14:44

Can't make sense of OP without paragraphs etc sorry

DarkDarkNight · 28/01/2024 14:45

He sounds manipulative and controlling. Get rid.

WaterHound · 28/01/2024 14:47

QueenBitch666 · 28/01/2024 14:36

Why the fk are you with such a scrofulous repugnant wanker?
Your bar is scraping the floor

This! Leave this man OP.

DeeLusional · 28/01/2024 14:47

Oh for gawd sake, why do women have so little self-esteem that they put up with useless demanding whinging creeps like this.

darkmodeera · 28/01/2024 14:49

This man is a controlling prick. Please if you can plan to leave him, do it at your next safe opportunity.

VeronicaMars2023 · 28/01/2024 14:49

He is showing you who he is and what he thinks of you - basically that you exist to fund him, cook and clean for him, raise his child and service him sexually however many times a day he feels is acceptable. Listen to what his actions (not his words) are clearly saying. Decide if this is the type of relationship you want to be in, and if it is a relationship you would wish your DC to emulate in their adult life. If the answer is “no” to either, LTB.