My husband only wants HJor BJ

[Hypergirl08]

Hi my husband only wants Handjobs or Blowjobs all the time he never wants to have sex I've tried to talk to him but he just brushes it off and then we go right back again it's really bothering me now as it's been going on for years now and I do it all while he just lays there I really need some advice as I'm have ran out of things to try or do it is really knocking my confidence and self-esteem

Thanks in advance for all advice

Do you think he might be gay, op?
Is he into your boobs etc at all, or just literally lies there whilst you do everything?
Has he suffered from ED?

If he's not gay I'll eat my hat.
Just stop ffs

Is he forcing you to do it? If not then stop. If he is forcing you then make steps to leave him.

Time to leave. Sorry.

Nope. I wouldn’t put down my cup of tea for that.

Another assuming he is actually gay but in denial because he’s not actually having sex with men.

Does he ask for this? Or do you initiate it and he goes along but never takes it any further?

I'm forever shocked at how women end up with men like this. Truly baffles me. There are lovely, kind men waiting on the shelves and yet guys like your husband are getting picked. Yuck.

Well why do you keep pleasuring him and why do you stay? He's selfish and gives you no pleasure.

He's either gay or simply has no feeling of affection for you whatsoever.

Either way get out of this stone dead marriage.

He's definitely a selfish git. He's maybe gay. Either way that is the most degrading sexual relationship I have heard in a while.

He is gay.

Several posters though the OP's OH may be "gay."
IMO, there is more of a chance he is a cheat and may have caught something from a sex-worker, one-night stand and is decent enough for you not to catch it. However, the bottom line is only he knows and it is up to you to be open and honest and not be shy, hold back

Know your worth. Stop doing it. I would be evaluating whether to have a relationship

Does he at least reciprocate?
Do you think he might be addicted to porn , gay or something along those lines ?
No matter what crap sex is never ok in a marriage and you deserve better

No
That's the crux of the thread

Tell him to get on with it. He surely has a hand in this?

What happens if you refuse?

My first thought was that he has cheated and is worrying about passing on an STI. Otherwise probably gay.

What a bone idle lazy bastard telll him to beat it, literally! What about you !!

Ooo this will completely erode your self esteem.

Look after yourself- he clearly doesn’t care

Blimey 😦 poor op .

So OPs not been back? 🤔

I doubt this is real as OPs not come back.

Time to kick the lazy bastard in to touch! What a selfish idiot. As a man, for me it's more important that my partner is satisfied and fulfilled. I get a sense of pride and satisfaction in doing so especially when you care for and love someone.

He sounds like one lazy and selfish man. I would tell him to sort himself out until he's prepared to realise that you matter too.