My husband only wants HJor BJ

[Hypergirl08]

Hi my husband only wants Handjobs or Blowjobs all the time he never wants to have sex I've tried to talk to him but he just brushes it off and then we go right back again it's really bothering me now as it's been going on for years now and I do it all while he just lays there I really need some advice as I'm have ran out of things to try or do it is really knocking my confidence and self-esteem

Thanks in advance for all advice

Why do you agree to this? Serious question that you need to think about!!

Why do you stay together OP? Surely you know this is wrong?

That’s my bet. This sort of complaint has come from a couple of women I know whose DHs turned out to be gay.

No not pregnant can't get pregnant

This takes laziness and selfishness to a complete new level. Why would you ever want to do those things for him when he does nothing in return? Please don't say this man is a good dad or good in other ways.

What? This is crazy! Do not do this ever again!

Why do you not prioritise your sexual satisfaction. Why do you do this for him? Why does his satisfaction come before yours? Your bedroom life sounds very unsexy and like a job. Why do you do this? I cringed while reading what you wrote. How can you be okay with this? It sounds horrible

Stop, just stop. Buy yourself something nice off lovehoney and put yourself first in terms of effort.

He deserves nothing more from you.

Honestly OP what are you getting from this relationship? You’d be far better off single than with this waste of space.

Face it he's a closeted gay man OP. He's lying there dreaming of other men while you give him a BJ.
Sulking? I'd make him bloody sulk with this behaviour I can tell you OP. Why on earth do you put up with it. Get a divorce.
Start living your own life.

He's extremely selfish, terrified of getting you pregnant or gay. Either whichever it is, stop providing services and start thinking about how get away from him.

Why are you allowing this?

Just stop doing it.

If he’s horny and wants you to pleasure him, he will do everything he can to put you in the mood.

Why would he waste his time and energy pleasuring you, if he knows he can just lie there and you’ll pleasure him without wanting anything in return.

Just stop doing it.

That was my first thought too.

It must be truly off-putting if one has to negotiate for sex. So for that reason I wouldn't even bother. Unless he's unwell or something?

Oh no way, I came to read as as we’re getting old, sex isn’t working as well as it used to and mainly we end up just doing other stuff as neither of us ends up being forfilled by actual sex. Sometimes I really just want sex though, so upsets me a bit that it doesn’t ‘work’.

However now I’ve read that he’s doing nothing for you in return. No way, just stop, you’re not an object or service. He either needs to meet you half way or leave.

I very much doubt it about pregnancy if he won’t pleasure her in any other way! He’s just selfish.

You’re not having sex with your husband. Because sex is a two way street.
You are just a handy way to help him release.

Now if you say NO to a BJ or a HJ, what happens?

It feels to me that you are desperate to get some attention from him/to be intimate with him, that you are accepting crumbs. Very very small crumbs instead.

Sod that! Don’t do it OP

If he refuses to discuss it and you have run out of ideas then logically there is nothing that can fix it. He clearly does not want to have sex with you and I very much doubt understanding why that is would help you change him. Focus on whether you can tolerate this for the rest of your life. Even if you think you can begrudgingly tolerate it, why should you and at what cost to your happiness?

You only get one life. Don't waste it on a partner who doesn't make you happy.

If that case divorce him;at least that'll give you a chance to meet a man who will have a normal sex life with you;even being single is better than being treated like shite by the man who's suppose to love you.

BTW a rampant rabbit won't disrespect you and will give you an orgasm.

Why are you still doing it? Why not say no?

This is not normal. It has gone on far too long. You need to put a stop to this and deserve to be in relationship where sexual gratification is a two way street.
You have two options which do not involve you continuing to provide him with one sided pleasure. 1) stay with him but end any sexual gratification for him.
2) leave him and live the rest of your life not being a sexual slave to him, and find a partner who wants normal sec with mutual gratification, it will be liberating.

It's been going on for years?

Why?

Why are you doing this?

Why on earth would you aim to satisfy someone sexually when they make zero effort for you?

If this is real then I'm sorry but you're a bit of a doormat for putting up with this for all these years. Find your self esteem then find someone else.