Ioan Gruffudd and Bianca Wallace

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I'm bemused how a 30 year old would want to marry a 50 year old, as for all the old cynical reasons, he is not that rich or that famous is he? I know there is a lot of discussion here about age gap relationships so I wondered what people thought. I remember being hit on by a 35 year old when I was 22 and I thought he was old!

Because she loves him? Age gaps aren’t uncommon,

The guy I’m seeing is 16 years older than me and it’s working out fine. Maybe he’s finally ready to settle down 😂

I imagine she loves him?

A 19 year age gap isn't that common is it? Maybe amongst the rich and famous but ime it's pretty unusual for regular folk

We used to do "half your age plus 7" to get acceptable age difference
So he is 50, so half is 25, plus 7 - she's just under that, 32, and she's 31

I suppose “because she loves him” is a leap too far?

He doesn't look or act 50. I'm 37 and I'd date someone up to about 60.

They don't look as if there is a massive age gap when you look at them actually.

Maybe she loves him and spending time with him? Revolutionary thought...

Alice, is that you?

More a celeb gossip thread than one for Realtionships?

Of course it isn't.

@Deathbyathousandcats I'm using them as an example rather than celeb gossip. Though my cousin has worked with this man, but that's a whole other story with nothing really to tell so of course it caught my eye in the news.

I'm curious about age gap relationships and if they work more than they fail. I have a friend who married a man 25 years older and she gradually became more and more old fashioned in her outlook and he not exactly gaslighted her but played on her insecurities.

He's not just any 50 year old - he is a very handsome man and yes he is actually famous and probably well off.
I'm sure she just loves him regardless of his fame though.

They seem equally besotted with each other.

I think she is a strong and beautiful woman, he's bloody lucky to have met her.

Three of my divorced male friends have recently remarried women with a 20year age gap. It remains to be seen whether these new relationships last, but clearly Ioan and Bianca are not the only ones to feel attraction despite the decades.

At the age of 19, I remember thinking the 23 year old mature student at university was so old, but perspectives change when you get above 30.

It depends where you are in life stages, if you are young living the party lifestyle, no kids etc.then an age gap with someone who has already done all that probably won't work out.

However if you have both done that, had kids/ruled kids out etc and have similar values/goals then it's no different to any other relationship

It's such a cliche. Second wife 20 years younger than the first.

Love? Outwardly at least it appears he cares very well for her (she’s disabled).

She must be absolutely mad- young, beautiful with the world at her feet and she's tethering herself to a man with more baggage than Heathrow.

Love does not conquer all and if she were my friend I'd be advising her to get far far away from the toxicity of a emotionally disordered ex-wife and two weaponised kids.

The same could be said for her. He obviously takes care of himself, and the age gap is not a secret. Good for them.

There were 25 years between me and my late partner, we were together many years before he died. I understand why people say they wouldn't do it because of the challenges it presents as the older partner ages, but I don't really get why you'd question the attraction. For us it was the same as any other couple - we laughed every day, we had shared goals and interests, we were best friends. By the age of 30 (I'd probably say 25 in fact) you're a fully formed adult and entirety capable of weighing that decision. She's not 21!

He claims he's so broke his children had to move out of the family home for it to be sold and he also stopped paying their school fees. He stopped seeing the kids during covid for over a year yet found the time and money to have lots of holidays with his new girlfriend.

He sounds like an all round piece of garbage and she sounds like a complete mug if she's funding him.

They are both grown adults.
Why do you care?
Are you jealous?

No, the spelling is too good