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I found my auntie passed away in her flat.

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PrimalOwl10 · 16/01/2024 01:36

I can't sleep going over the events in my head. My auntie never married or had dc. Myself and siblings were her family and our own dc. After speaking to my dm I couldn't get in touch with her yesterday. We decided to drive over to find her in the arm chair having passed away. I has just seen her on Saturday after she called round with my birthday card...

OP posts:
Reugny · 16/01/2024 01:40

Sorry for your loss.

You were lucky to have each other.

Take care of yourself.

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HowIWroteElasticWoman · 16/01/2024 01:49

I am so sorry for your loss, OP. Do you want to tell us a bit about what your auntie was like, if you think it may help?

Christmasbird · 16/01/2024 01:54

You've had a terrible shock OP. Naturally it will play on your mind for a long time and I'm sorry you had to find her. It must be a lot to take in, what was she like? You must have been close which is lovely xx

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PrimalOwl10 · 16/01/2024 02:09

She was very caring lady bit abit self righteous at times we often wondered if she was autistic if she had a bee in her bonnet that was it. She would go out the way for family. We had been struggling as I was messed about with a new job and she helped me out. She would never see you without if she could help. I wish I gad gotten to her sooner. She had been long gone when we got to her. I couldn't help her.

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TwoOfMine · 16/01/2024 02:44

She was lucky to have people in her life like you who loved and cared for her

TwoOfMine · 16/01/2024 02:44

Sorry for your loss Flowers

PaperwhiteTheGhost · 16/01/2024 03:29

Sorry for your loss my love.

Sounds like she had a quick and peaceful death, and was well loved which is all any of us can hope for x

DramaAlpaca · 16/01/2024 03:42

Oh gosh, I'm so sorry. What a shock for you. She sounds like a wonderful woman Flowers

Pinkbonbon · 16/01/2024 03:58

I'm sorry for your loss. In fairness it's not a bad way to go, in your own home, on your in armchair. As a single woman, that's my sanctuary personally. And its not as if she didn't know she wasn't loved, so don't beat yourself up.

Flatandhappy · 16/01/2024 04:20

I am sorry for your loss. Finding a loved one deceased is pretty traumatic, if it an option for you to get some counselling support I would seek it out.

ShelleyCarpenter · 16/01/2024 05:56

I’m so sorry. It must be so shocking

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PrimalOwl10 · 16/01/2024 07:04

I haven't slept a wink, I keep going on the events in my head.

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MyStarBoy · 16/01/2024 07:24

I’m so sorry for your sad loss.

She was very lucky to have you, and you were very lucky to have her 💐

justrecognisedmyneighbouronhere · 16/01/2024 07:34

Please take peace and comfort knowing she died probably where she wanted to and went peacefully.

AfterTheSummer · 16/01/2024 07:38

I’m sorry for your loss and that you had such a shock.

It’s lovely that you were close to your auntie. It sounds as if she must have slipped away very peacefully.

Dontjudgeme101 · 16/01/2024 07:40

So sorry op. 💐💐💐

Zanatdy · 16/01/2024 07:44

That’s really tough OP, give it some time, you will still be in shock from finding her like that. Sorry for your loss

Bubbleohseven · 16/01/2024 07:51

I'm sorry for your loss OP. And the shock it must have been for you.

As others have said, slipping away peacefully in your sleep in your own home is probably about the best you can get really. It was a shock for you but at least she didn't linger and suffer for months and years like many do.

You loved each other and were there for each other.

I think Cruise offer specialised bereavement counselling if you feel you might need it and obviously it's available elsewhere too.

TroisCroissants · 16/01/2024 07:57

Oh you poor thing. In time I hope you can take comfort in the fact that she died peacefully in her home, and it was worth the 'price' of you finding her. But for now, you are in shock, and your mind has a huge amount start to process. Eat a little, stay hydrated, rest, walk, talk, and sleep will come eventually.

LilyLemonade · 16/01/2024 08:00

What a shock, that must be awful to find her dead and completely unexpectedly, after seeing her shortly before. I'm so sorry for your loss.

FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 16/01/2024 08:07

That's rough. Sorry, OP.

Sunday12 · 16/01/2024 08:10

How lovely that you drove over to her when you felt worried. You were there for her.
it’s going to be traumatic to process. But you will be able to process it in time I’m sure. I’m sorry for your loss

myBumJuiceSmellsLikeRoses · 16/01/2024 09:13

Please just be comforted by the fact she died peacefully in her own space and knew nothing of it.

It was dignified, and she has family who cared so much about her that she was found as soon as she was.
Some people remain days, weeks before anyone thinks to check.
She was a lucky lady to be loved and so are you.

greencatz · 16/01/2024 09:18

As others have said this is the kind of end we all hope for. Quiet and in your own home. My own grandfather died on a park bench after going for a walk

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