I found my auntie passed away in her flat.

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I can't sleep going over the events in my head. My auntie never married or had dc. Myself and siblings were her family and our own dc. After speaking to my dm I couldn't get in touch with her yesterday. We decided to drive over to find her in the arm chair having passed away. I has just seen her on Saturday after she called round with my birthday card...

Oh my lovely, how traumatising for you. Right now you're in shock, so do whatever it is you need to do to right now, whether that's hiding under a blanket on the sofa or talking to someone. It'll take a bit of time to process this. Much love to you.

What a shock OP.
But I hope thats the way I go peacefully in my own home. She was very lucky to have you.

I’m so sorry. I’ve been there with a family member.

Let yourself feel whatever you are feeling, you are likely to go through shock, grief, anger and sadness. Don’t hold any of it in.

If you need to be around others then do but it’s also okay to want to be alone. Do whatever helps you right now.

What a shock for you op. Be comforted that your Aunty died suddenly,with her dignity and independence intact. Sending you my best wishes . You have a lot to process and overtime it will get easier.💐

I hope I am lucky to have a niece/nephew as kind as you. I don't have children of my own but hope to be part of my extended family's lives.
You will need time to process and grieve but like pp said, she must have passed peacefully.

So sorry for your loss. Take time to look after yourself, it's a huge shock. How old was your auntie? She sounds like she was an important part of your family.

Sorry for your loss, it will take some time to get over it, there was nothing that you could have done for her

Was she quite elderly

What a dreadful shock for you, I lost a grandparent in a very similar way.

It won’t bring you much comfort now but, in time, as others have said, you will see that she had a dignified and peaceful death and will be grateful for it.

I’m very sorry for your loss.

What a shock for you. But it sounds like a very peaceful passing. She wasn’t suffering or in pain or frightened. She was safe and comfortable in her own home in her own armchair. Hopefully once the shock passes that will be a comfort to you.

Lots of people who live on their own could pass away and be left for weeks or months without anyone realising. How lovely that she had people that cared for her so much. Try to focus on the memories of her and who she was as a person rather than finding her. It might help to start writing a little speech for her funeral.

So sorry for your loss. The same happened to my auntie. We only knew a few days after it happened. I still think about her to this day.

Sorry for your loss, it must have been a shock. Take care of yourself and allow yourself time to process what's happened. As others have said though, peacefully at home is what we all hope for :).

She would have known how much you loved her and how important she was in your life. You could keep the birthday card she gave to you. Every year on my birthday I put up the last birthday card my Mum sent me before she passed away. I know some might think it odd but my Mum never missed my birthday when she was alive and I find it comforting. Sorry for your loss.

So sorry op

In time you will be able to appreciate that passing away suddenly in a favourite chair, active until the last, is what we all hope for but it's a shock, and you will need to come to terms with what has happened, likely to be tough with a sudden death. Talk to people who have been through this, lean on each other and please try to celebrate the life of your lovely aunt, who was so lucky to have a caring niece.

We had a sudden death a few months ago, and do us only just really appreciating that this is a dignified and good death, now the shock, anger etc has worn off

❤️

That's very sad. Hopefully she slipped away peacefully in her sleep. How old was she?

It sounds like it was a peaceful passing , after the shock and grief you can take comfort from that. Its how I want to go when the time comes x

I’m so sorry, that must have been so difficult. It sounds like your lovely auntie passed peacefully. Take care of yourself ❤️‍🩹

That's very very normal, op. Your brain is trying to make sense of things and come to terms with what has happened.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Your auntie sounds great, and you were both lucky to have each other.

Don't feel guilty: you saw her at the weekend!

She knew she was loved and cared for. Dying peacefully in your own armchair is a pretty good way to go - but of course a huge shock for you.

Be kind to yourself. 💐

Totally agree with this post!

Sincere apologies as I meant to add I am so very sorry for your loss of someone who sounds like a great lady, OP. 💐

I think slipping away quietly in my own chair in my own house sounds like a peaceful way to go.

My condolences OP. Sounds like she passed peacefully which is the best way!

I’m so sorry for your loss OP 💐

I echo what others posters have said about her passing in the best way where she felt comfortable.

Be sad that she died, but I hope this gives you comfort -

• She was at home, not hospital
• If she died in her armchair, that sounds peaceful
• You saw her a couple of days beforehand, for a happy occasion