I found my auntie passed away in her flat.

[PrimalOwl10]

I can't sleep going over the events in my head. My auntie never married or had dc. Myself and siblings were her family and our own dc. After speaking to my dm I couldn't get in touch with her yesterday. We decided to drive over to find her in the arm chair having passed away. I has just seen her on Saturday after she called round with my birthday card...

I'm so sorry for your loss and your shock. It sounds like you cared about her and she was lucky to have you in her life.

What a lucky lady! She had close family who really cared for her and she had a death that most people wish for themselves.

It's a shock for you to have found her of course, but try and replace that memory with a happy one when she was alive.

Sounds like she had a good life and an easy death. Fortunate indeed.

I’m so sorry for your loss. 💐
You’ve had an awful shock, don’t underestimate its effects.
Going over what happened is your brain’s way of processing what has happened. It will stop but if it goes on too long, speak to your GP or phone Cruse or Sue Ryder Bereavement Support.
https://www.sueryder.org/how-we-can-help/online-bereavement-support
https://www.cruse.org.uk/

Look after yourself, make sure you eat and drink, even small amounts.

I'm so sorry for your loss.
Once the shock has passed, which will take some time, you can begin to console yourself with the positive aspects of how she passed away.
She was happy and comfortable in her own home, in regular touch with her family who loved her, no suffering or being in strange surroundings. A good friend of mine lost her mother in similar circumstances; she was found comfortably tucked up in bed, having had, it turned out, a heart attack in her sleep. Right up to her last day, she had been fully involved in family life, and her own daughter admitted that she would have hated being in declining health. But of course it was an awful shock for the daughter who popped around to see why she hadn't heard from her....
You may find it gives you some comfort to channel your energies into ensuring that she gets a good send-off; from the sound of it, you will have plenty of support from the family as they rally round.

Sorry for your loss x
I found my own mum deceased 7 weeks ago and it's very traumatic.
I still have trouble sleeping so please look after each other x

As a doctor this is my dream death. Peacefully in my own space surrounded by my things, knowing that I have good family and friends.

You may not see it just yet but honestly there are far worse ways that it could have happened. If it turns out to be a big stroke, heart attack or embolism then even if you were sat next to her at the time it’s likely the result would have been the same.

The worst of all is “resuscitation” that restarts the heart but with significant damage to the brain from lack of oxygen. Be kind to yourself OP and think on your fond memories of her.

So sorry for your loss 💐