Ejaculation

[Jojo77777]

Hey I've been seeing my new boyfriend for about 3 months, I'm starting to fall for him. The only one issue is he does not ejaculate when we have sex, I have asked him about this and he says, he doesn't always and h3 think he could be mentally blocking it out,

@dorisdaydidnitdodirtydeeds

Also; the logic here is that if a guy spends enough time out of a relationship that he gets used to masturbation becoming his form of sexual release, then he is doomed to a sexless marriage!... so to follow through with your logic to its logical conclusion, any man who hasn't had sex for say, 6 months, won't be able to reproduce and have children!

Charming.

DH been like this for years since I have known him. We have four DC together so he has managed to climax from time to time 🤣

Yes it can certainly go on for ages each session but DH more interested in making me happy than himself so he doesn't mind. I have never made it into an issue. The more you make a big thing out of it the more difficult it will be for him to ejaculate.

Laughing at others saying bin him OP🤣🤣 sex is only one part of a relationship. If you get on great in general that's really good news.

None of us are perfect. I have my own faults too.

I think it's nerves, if you remove all expectations so that it doesn't become a big issue and give him lots of reassurance and plenty of time when you are having sex then it will probably happen.

I certainly did. Married one in fact. Been together twenty years. It's not an issue. It's only an issue if you make it an issue.

Jesus some of the responses on here ..... he just can't (yet) ejaculate. Hes tense. Dont worry about it .dont mention it. Take the pressure off him. Hes giving you pleasure

Some of the posters on here saying dump him really need to be careful what they say/think. The menopause, even on HRT, can lead to zero libido, zero orgasms, extreme dryness, infact some women cannot cope with penetration anymore. I find it incredibly difficult to O now - should my DP of 10 years just up and leave?

Let’s hope men don’t think the same about women who have not been in a relationship for a while, dried-up , clamped shut, frigid and leading to a sexless marriage

I’m always amazed at the number of posters who recommend dumping a man who shows and kind of sexual problems without thinking that they might have those same problems in the years to come and I would imagine they would want their partner to support them and not just be dumped

I've experienced this with men since being over 50. It's a good lesson, there's more to life than the big O

I is certainly a known side effect of viagra, which isn't uncommon in over 50s.

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I have a similar situation, except my (now) ex did use porn (a bit I think) and masturbate. Sex was still brilliant. But I called him out on the porn and masturbation and he dumped me for apparently shaming him. He thought it was down to age. I thought he should try to kick the masturbation for a bit to see if he could re-set himself. Anyway he dumped me so it's all moot now. I'm regretting saying anything.

So I don't know anything, but I will in future think carefully before entering into a relationship with someone who can't ejaculate other than by masturbation.

Of course not. But there’s a difference between a partner of 10 years and a boyfriend of 3 months like the OP’s.
It depends how much compromising and work you want to do in the early days of a relationship. If it was me, with a new partner, it wouldn’t be worth it.

@PaulPasta

Wow so sleazy!

Are you seriously trying to pick up women off mumsnet?

Desperado!