Husband mimics me during an argument. Do other partners do this?

[MarillaAnn]

Does your partner ever imitate you during an argument?

The other day, after we argued about something we disagree about, my husband mimicked me for about 3 mins in a whiney baby voice (which sounded nothing like me i hope) - I guess to make out I was being silly and pathetic.

Does anyone else's partner do this when you argue?

Not normal. I'd consider this abusive.

No, it's abusive.

Mocking and belittling and demeaning. Abusive, as has been said. Three minutes, fuck sake, dude needs therapy.

Is he 12?

How immature and pathetic.

The answer is no this isn't normal;it's an attempt to stonewall you and intimidate you.

He's basically saying your opinion and feelings aren't valid.

I bet he's also a sulker.Does he often disregard your thoughts/opinions on things?

Nasty, nasty, nasty.

Hi @Duckingella

He is almost 40!

@noooooooo it did feel very belittling.

I'm shocked any man has enough balls/is dumb enough to do this as while I'd never condone abuse, I'd imagine most would get a punch in the face. This is someone who has zero respect for you and/or is incredibly immature, I'd expect this from someone about 8 years old

That would give me the absolute rage.

It's cruel and abusive. Not normal

That sounds so awful.

No, my DH has never done that. Or any partner. I guess mainly because he likes me.

Mimicking someone like that is incredibly disdainful. He really doesn’t like you, does he?

Where do you go from here, with that?

I would love some insight into the sort of man who behaves like this.

Thread after thread on here of abusive men. Men who clearly loathe their partners.

Why don’t they just leave….? Why do they stay with women they obviously can’t stand? It just doesn’t make any sense. What’s stopping them leaving? Are they just very weak / pathetic?

OP - you deserve so much better than this. Surely singledom is better than being mocked by the person who’s meant to care about you the most?

My DH probably did this
With his brother when they were about 10 years old

Your DH is being a twat

That’s really horrible @MarillaAnn . In the cold light of day, point out to him that it’s totally unacceptable behaviour and you won’t stand for it. Make sure he knows you mean it.

I think it is very insulting mimicking you.

It’s a tactic for demeaning and attempting to control you.

It is definitely emotional abuse.

Discuss your feelings about being mocked and tell them it’s unacceptable.

I have never had someone do that to me.

My abusive ex husband used to, yes

It's an age-old show of contempt. Not at all normal in anyone over primary-school age, and I'm pretty sure I've seen it specifically listed as verbal abuse (Women's Aid has "mocking").

Why be married to someone who despises you so?

And how did you not just say "Fuck off you patronising twat" and walk out?

It's horrible belittling behaviour.

Is it abusive? If it was a single incident, no. If it's part of a repeated pattern of behaviour, yes.

The fact you didn't challenge him indicates this probably isn't the first time or the only kind of behaviour he's exhibited that's unacceptable.

‘Grow up, you stupid prick’ and walk away.

My 6 and 9 year olds do this to each other. And get told off when they do.

never seen a grown up do it!!

That would infuriate me beyond my ability to not Bury him under the patio.

He deserves a PITC for that one. 100% not normal.

I'd film him.

He’s an abusive prick. I couldn’t stay in a relationship with someone that did this.

My DH has done this. He grew up around a Dad who was (and is) very controlling & verbally abusive to his Mum & so I think thought it was normal.

We went to counselling (about other issues) and worked on how you communicate even in conflict & he has since worked hard on not doing that or anything like it since.