Husband mimics me during an argument. Do other partners do this?

[MarillaAnn]

Does your partner ever imitate you during an argument?

The other day, after we argued about something we disagree about, my husband mimicked me for about 3 mins in a whiney baby voice (which sounded nothing like me i hope) - I guess to make out I was being silly and pathetic.

Does anyone else's partner do this when you argue?

No, mine doesn’t do this. It’s very, very nasty and doesn’t reflect at all well on your partner.

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No, never. He sounds very immature if he has to resort to this type of childish behaviour! He does it to shut you up (and annoy you too) rather than being an adult and actually resolving the issue. Perhaps ask him why he does it, when you are not having a disagreement. Probably goes right back to his childhood. He does need to stop doing it.

It's really contemptuous and unkind; probably not the only example of abusive behaviour either

Eww. Nasty abusive little prick.

My ex did this, along with 'mirroring' my supposed facial expressions - it used to make me seethe. It's very abusive behaviour over time.

Not one I'd stay with...

Doing it once is being an immature idiot.

Doing it repeatedly is abusive.

My DH would absolutely not do this. It’s belittling and abusive.

Ooohh my son did this recently to his little sister (son 25 and dd 16). She waited till he'd finished and replied "I'm sorry,I didn't realise that you are not mature enough to handle this conversation". I high fived her as she walked out the room

How the fuck did you not leave him the first time he did this? I'd instantly lose any respect I had for anyone over the age of 12 who did this to me.

Because they have someone they think they're better than.

They have someone to cook, clean for them, someone they can use for sex. Someone they can control.

It makes them feel important, in charge. It gives them status, makes other people believe that they're a "family man"

They don't care if they don't really love their partner, or even like them. That's not what they're interested in. Their wives and partners and children are just props, things to show the world what a good man they are, things to kick when the word kicks them, so that they don't feel like the bottom rung on the ladder.

Why don’t they just leave….? Why do they stay with women they obviously can’t stand? It just doesn’t make any sense. What’s stopping them leaving? Are they just very weak / pathetic?

Because then they'd have to find someone else to do the housework and have sex with.

No, OP. My DP has never done this. We don't really argue anyway - if we have a problem with each other, we talk about it. The last time anyway acted in this way towards me was the early years of secondary school. I won't tolerate it.

Thank god im single.
But i have seen women do this to.

Has he just started doing this? Odd thing to be new behaviour. It's prickish too.

Horrid behaviour. Shows total lack of respect for you.

No, it’s very childish

No way. Belittling someone like that indicates a lack of respect, which in a partnership is absolutely not on. It’s possible to disagree about things and argue respectfully.

My thoughts exactly. Just pull your phone out, pop it on record and sit there expressionless OP.

Save them under a folder called Abusive Dickhead.

It shows his immaturity and inability to communicate - plus a total lack of respect for you. It’s contemptuous and utterly pathetic.

He must look like he hates you. It’s abusive.

Next time you make his tea ask him if he wants it cut up like whiney toddler.... And plan your future. One without him.
Ime.

This isn't the only nasty thing he does, is it?

He is absolutely contemptuous of you and yes as a previous poster said, if he tried it elsewhere he would get a punch in the face as he well knows.

In our toxic relationship my wife does this to me.

She always tells me it is normal behaviour in a couple, it's just a row, so what if it happened, it was in the past, man up, don't be so pathetic to be hurt by it, it's just me standing up for myself.

She also does mocking "impressions" of others when telling me what other people have said when she is angry about something they said or did but apart from to her ex husband I don't think she does it directly to others. So I guess she knows it is crossing a line of acceptable behaviour and only we will tolerate it - or at least not allow it to fundamentally change the status quo between her and us because of it.

She is a very angry person, quite understandable because of her past. She was belittled and emotionally neglected and physically abused by her parents and other family members and she often feels belittled and not seen in interactions with others so does to others what was done to her.

But from what I've learned on Mumsnet and then further reading, it is still abuse. There are other behaviours that also fit that description.

(I stay because I don't want to ruin her quality of life and because I have done really shitty things as well in the past.)

OP I suggest you give this behaviour you're been subjected to serious thought. Is anything else wrong in the relationship? Was it a one off, could he apologise and see what he has done as unacceptable without any attempts by him to justify it?

My abusive ex did and ironically his brother would do it to my friend who he married.

That's so childish and disrespectful.

If your relationship is otherwise perfectly respectful and happy (I suspect it isn't if he's capable of acting like this) then it would be worth a conversation. Not mid arguement but when things are calm and settled. Tell him it's deeply disrespectful, immature, suggests he's trying to upset you, suggests he's run out of sensible arguements, and that you find him a bit less attractive every time he does it.

However, please look into other areas of your relationship. Is he supportive? Kind? Does he have your back? Treat you with respect? See you as his equal? Pull his weight equally?