Only fans

[Confusedandstreased]

Ok I’m so
confused I was on my husband
phone on the internet just browsing.
I decided to look at his search history, I don’t know why maybe because me and my friends had been talking about how our search history was well weird and we all compared our random searches.
anyway I came across only fans. I don’t care about porn but only fans hit me in the gut.and some of the history said OnlyFans/mychats - part of me is like no way does this mean he’s actually chatted.
iv checked our bank and there is no subscription or weird payments to prepaid cards.
or random cash withdrawal ( to preload another card)
I have read into it and from what I can see some creators offer free content which can include chat as a way to Lear ppl in I guess.
anyway I feel betrayed more so if he had chatted. But even seeing it in the search history part of me
thinks it’s wrong and dosnt actually mean he chats.
i don’t know what I’m asking really but I’m so confused. Like I said I don’t mind porn prob not only free content it’s the chat.
I did try to login in to only fans to see but I can’t seem to find an an account associated with his email or his twitter ( the one I know of)
I feel I need to see if he has been chatting so I don’t get blagged. I also don’t know if I’m just being a
complete melt feeling like this. But it’s made me feel
gross and disgusting about myself to the point I don’t want him to look at me. So something needs to be addressed. I don’t want to
speak with friends as I’m 2 embarrassed and I don’t want them to think badly of him
as I know it’s normal 2.
Sorry for going on I struggle to write and I’m very poor with spelling and gramma.

It's not normal when you are in a relationship to be chatting to people on only fans. Why do you not want people to think bad of him? He has betrayed you.

What happens if you click on those actual links in the history?

I don’t want to end my marriage and he’s a genuinely really fantastic husband.
supportive in every way. So
i don’t want to tell them so
they look at him different.

It just goes to the login page. Nothing is saved as in email and passwords. Not even in the settings on passwords.

What part of this makes him a fantastic husband?

I'm sorry this isn't good.

He's chatting to other women is a no doubt sexual capacity.

It's just cheating, but on the internet.

Bloody men.

Sorry.

None of this part makes him fantastic.
but he works hard he’s takes on house responsibilities ( I can’t as I have fibromyalgia) he’s an amazing dad. He favours going out with us over going to the pub. He dosnt atualy go out. He’s thoughtful ect.
even seeing the history I posted I still feel like it’s just a glitch. If I could see that it was defo chats id confront him now. But atm I’m still building up to it. I agree I think it’s cheating. I just need to see to what extent.

It looks like he's been on only fans, made an account and received some picture messages etc as there is a link to message gallery.

You have to decide what your boundaries are and where you draw the line at cheating.

Only you can make that call

Im really sorry but it’s not a glitch. My very (strong) advice based on experience is star calm pretend you’ve seen nothing and keep checking. If it keeps coming then possibly try and login. If he’s this daft that you can see his history then you may be able to guess a common password?

I’m so confused as I don’t find less personal stuff. But only fans is an individual creator. I don’t think him having message sent him is as bad as him reply with dirty talk. That’s what gets me I guess the not seeing is really hard. As if I had a bank statement with it on or I managed to login I’d be able to talk to him better.
with out feeling a fool and getting told it’s nothing.

As if I had a bank statement with it on or I managed to login I’d be able to talk to him better.
with out feeling a fool and getting told it’s nothing.

So you already know he is going to gaslight you.

I’m hoping I can manage to play it cool. In the hope I can try login.
but he’s defo noticed iv been off.

It doesn't sound like he's that much of a nice guy to be honest from what you have said.

And him receiving messages, suggests that he has sent messages I'm afraid.

It's completely disrespectful to you. There is literally no excuse for it at all. But only you know what your boundaries are.

So you already know he is going to gaslight you.

im not very good at confronting people and wilL doubt myself and will easily fall for oh it was a joke just to see how far i
could push the free content. Or ill
believe if he says oh it was messages sent me. So
i want to see it.

even though just being on it is a horrible thought to me. But again in my head im
like oh maybe he just wanted to look at what its
all about and got taken in 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️😭😭

Good men don't talk to other women on onlyfans.

Good men don't talk to other women in a sexual capacity at all.

My ex did this and couldn't ever trust him again.

Thank you everyone for your messages I already feel better.

If you put his email address in it should Autofill his password

This is it.
trust and im
terrified I’m never going to look at him the same.

I also think oh iv got it so
wrong it’s not how I think.

The fact he created an account and logged on a looked at messages he received shows his intent surely.
Like you say they're real people who you interact with on a personal level.
If he had no intention of doing that he would have just stuck with the free porn which doesn't bother you.

You feel off with this because deep down you know what he's looking for and you are trying to find a way to make it untrue

If you try to type those into a browser you come up against the log in page, which means he must have logged in with an account to get any further. So you know that, at least.

I'd personally keep my lip zipped for now, and see if you can get anything more concrete, you don't really sound confident that addressing it with him is going to get you anywhere?

If you put his email address in it should Autofill his password

I tried and there is nothing saved. I went into the passwords for everything and OnlyFans was not there.
I logged in with his twitter but it wasn’t under that. So all I can think is he has a different email or logs in with a different twitter.

I need to try get on the phone and see what he logged in as on twitter and see if it’s diff to the one I know

The fact he created an account and logged on a looked at messages he received shows his intent surely.
Like you say they're real people who you interact with on a personal level.
If he had no intention of doing that he would have just stuck with the free porn which doesn't bother you.

nail on the head. INTENT! will use that.

you don't really sound confident that addressing it with him is going to get you anywhere?

not at all. Im
easily blagged i think. I’m always told by my friends i
always try to see the best in people and try see the other side of the story.

If you try to type those into a browser you come up against the log in page, which means he must have logged in with an account to get any further. So you know that, at least.

didn’t look at it like this still though nah it’s a
glitch

basically manual input, then it prevents people reading them

I'm pretty sure you have to pay in order to even message the person.

Sorry, this would be a LTB for me!

I'm pretty sure you have to pay in order to even message the person.

i did a bit of digging and some creators message very limited stuff to try get you to tip. All our income is in same account and can’t see anything remotely significant that could be a payment or a withdrawal of cash for prepayment. Paying to me would be even worse