Only fans

[Confusedandstreased]

Ok I’m so
confused I was on my husband
phone on the internet just browsing.
I decided to look at his search history, I don’t know why maybe because me and my friends had been talking about how our search history was well weird and we all compared our random searches.
anyway I came across only fans. I don’t care about porn but only fans hit me in the gut.and some of the history said OnlyFans/mychats - part of me is like no way does this mean he’s actually chatted.
iv checked our bank and there is no subscription or weird payments to prepaid cards.
or random cash withdrawal ( to preload another card)
I have read into it and from what I can see some creators offer free content which can include chat as a way to Lear ppl in I guess.
anyway I feel betrayed more so if he had chatted. But even seeing it in the search history part of me
thinks it’s wrong and dosnt actually mean he chats.
i don’t know what I’m asking really but I’m so confused. Like I said I don’t mind porn prob not only free content it’s the chat.
I did try to login in to only fans to see but I can’t seem to find an an account associated with his email or his twitter ( the one I know of)
I feel I need to see if he has been chatting so I don’t get blagged. I also don’t know if I’m just being a
complete melt feeling like this. But it’s made me feel
gross and disgusting about myself to the point I don’t want him to look at me. So something needs to be addressed. I don’t want to
speak with friends as I’m 2 embarrassed and I don’t want them to think badly of him
as I know it’s normal 2.
Sorry for going on I struggle to write and I’m very poor with spelling and gramma.

Utterly gross. The chat won't have been about the weather will it? He would have been discussing their bum holes and other parts of their body and what he fantasises about doing with them.

Bin him.

Urgh it’s all been deleted. No search history available anymore.
tried to login to twitter but nothing. Wish I could hack. 😂

Why are you laughing?

So what if it's been deleted. You know what he has done, you don't need to see anything more. You just need to get rid of him.

You won't though, you have already made it clear he is your idea of a good catch.

You will be back when you catch him cheating though

Oh gosh it was meant to be a crying face.

he wouldn’t physically cheat. But this is really high in my books if not ok. I really struggle not seeing full proof. I really struggle with conflict so if I could just instead show screen shots of chats so no matter what was said it was there in front of us I could stand my ground better.
im likely to walk away or doubt what I think. And not get anywhere

I would speak to him calmly and say you saw this on his phone by accident and you'd like an explanation.

If he can cheat online, he can cheat in person, don't be naive.

He has been chatting. And those URLs indicate he's been sent images which he opened.

As clicking on those links took you to the login page it's clear that the only way to navigate to the page in the link is to be logged in so he must have created an account. Whether he paid for anything isn't clear. It would be way enough for him to have created another email address at any number of different email providers outlook, Hotmail, yahoo as well as Gmail, etc - (look for these in his browsing history) nothing is being saved in the browser because he's being careful to avoid that from happening and he's most likely just entering a password that's simple and short enough for him to remember.

You could block the onlyfans page on the router - look up how to configure your router and add it to the list if blocked sites - that would do him accusing it from home over wifi bit that doesn't take tackle the problem - tell him what you saw and ask him what's going on.

@Confusedandstreased i feel bad for you op, I feel like your in denial about this. You have seen for yourself he is on only fans chats and chat gallery and your still trying to convince yourself it didn't happen. He 100% was on only fans, that should be enough for you to confront him, you have the screenshot right there so it doesn't matter if he has deleted his history; you have the proof he was on it. I hope your okay xx

I would presume you’d get a message confirming your account and subscription like when you sign up and register with anything
and the usual messages telling you of offers and trying to up sell

probably this rather than individual pervy messages

Loads do register for a bit free of content then try to sell you a subscription through messaging you offers

OP - I’ve been there.

My advice is to raise it with him because it will only eat away at you until you do. How you do it will be down to you and your personal style but please do raise it with him and see how he reacts

It looks like just inward images not a 2 way chat?

So yeah the creator sending free content.

Often people sign up to Of through kick tiktok youtube plugs ect via being told free goods. Creator then hopes for paid subs for more intense stuff.

Alot of people use it to explore more private fantasies that may not be obtainable in real life.

You'll have to just ask him if he's as good a man as you say he should handle it all with respect to yourself xx

I would assume most men in a relationship know that their wives will check their browsing history and emails etc. That is what is ocncerning, he did it knowing that you would find it or has done it so often that he was just bound to slip up occasionally.

Thank you everyone.
iv felt better getting it out in this post as reading reply’s.
i know I need to address it as iv woken up just feeling so sad.
its just a case of how. And if it’s a case of just having an of account and being sent stuff. Am I cross and upset he opened them or am I relived he didn’t pay and interact. ( if he didn’t )

Please, keep the photo. Leave it a day or two. See if it comes up again on his History, or even worse disappears completely.
He will tell you it is a one off. If it does not disappear and does not reapear, that is likely the case. If it comes up again it is more serious.

Really?? I would absolutely not check any of my oh phone history or anything for that matter. On the flip I have his pass code ( to unlock while driving ect) I don't know many that do check phones to me that's no trust ?

I always casually make sure my significant others know the password.
It has never been a problem. I have never caught a SO checking up on me and it is taboo to mention that it happens but they often "just happen to be see my phone and cannot help but notice my entire internet history". It is easier just to be open.
There has been innocent explanations when something came up in the past and it was never an issue.

Ahh okay I was imaging like some kind of military level checking 🤣

I'm betting he'll tell you a load of old nonsense which you'll lap up and continue on your merry way believing everything is hunky dory.

Just to add to his feelings of discontent about you he now will feel resentment that you caught him out.

His sexual fantasies won't go away.

He's no catch. He's a sleazebag, a devious sleazebag.

Gosh it’s so hard. You are right I know I will fall for it. I suppose than why I want to see more. And see what it is as I’m less likely to fall for the old shit of oh I got invited via insta and was curious but I never interacted or subscribed.

Nothing like that!
But I have had SOs be upset that I am "hiding" my laptop when I leave it somewhere else. :D
I am sure it is thorough but occasional checking generally. And as much curiosity and nosiness

Could payment be through PayPal, in which case you may not necessarily see it on a bank statement?

Could payment be through PayPal

iv checked and they don’t take PayPal.
i did check our Paypal still though

he wouldn’t physically cheat.

Of course he will.

You have already made it clear you will accept whatever he tells you if you even raise this with him. That will be his green light.

This is pretty brutal no ?

Plenty of us mums use porn doesn't mean we would swan off with 12 inch Timmy.

Do you have a husband ? / kids?