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Is this OK?

56 replies

kdmummyx · 09/01/2024 20:04

Is this okay ? earlier my two sons (5years & 3 years) were arguing over a toy to cut the story short my youngest son was very upset and threw up over my partners leg as he was crying. I came downstairs to find both the kids upset and one had been sick - I reacted to my partner about the way he handled the situation regarding the toy and that our son had now been sick due to crying - he then picked up (TMI) the bits of sick off his leg (was chunks of apple I believe sorry !!) and threw the sick at my face. I’ve explained to him how this isn’t okay in my mind and he said ‘it’s just a bit of apple’ am I in the wrong or is that totally not ok to do ??

OP posts:
3sausagedogs · 09/01/2024 20:05

That’s disgusting

BarbieGirl999 · 09/01/2024 20:05

Er no, absolutely not ok and disgusting.

Original poster
kdmummyx · 09/01/2024 20:06

I know it’s super gross and sorry for the tmi !

OP posts:
2Old2Tango · 09/01/2024 20:06

Wow! That's totally not ok!

TheAverageJoanne · 09/01/2024 20:10

He's nuts.

StrawberryWater · 09/01/2024 20:11

Well he wouldn't be my partner after that.

Dirty disgusting man.

HarrietStyles · 09/01/2024 20:12

My jaw dropped when I read that he threw the sick at you. Absolutely disgraceful. Completely unacceptable behaviour. Has he apologised?

AnneLovesGilbert · 09/01/2024 20:12

The fuck? Why did he do it?! 🤮

WhateverMate · 09/01/2024 20:13

This is very worrying.

Not just that he did this and in front of the kids too, but that you're asking if it's ok.

Original poster
kdmummyx · 09/01/2024 20:14

I’m more asking for reassurance that what I feel is right from other people - I know it’s not okay.

OP posts:
KissMyArt · 09/01/2024 20:22

kdmummyx · 09/01/2024 20:14

I’m more asking for reassurance that what I feel is right from other people - I know it’s not okay.

You're a mother of two children, your partner threw one of the children's sick in your face and you're looking for reassurance that it's not ok?

Speechless.

barkymcbark · 09/01/2024 20:29

I wonder where the kids get their behaviour from?

What an awful thing to do.

Beastiesandthebeauty · 09/01/2024 20:31

He has absolutely 0 respect for you

IsThePopeCatholic · 09/01/2024 20:31

Disgusting behaviour.

MrsSucculent · 09/01/2024 20:44

Absolutely not ok. Utterly despicable behaviour. I’m revolted for you.

IronNeonClasp · 09/01/2024 20:47

LTB

MrsTerryPratchett · 09/01/2024 20:51

He's an abusive arsehole and I suspect this isn't close to the first time.

AsMyGranWouldSay · 09/01/2024 20:51

Has he done other violent things? Cos, you know that's abusive right?

It's interesting that you say you know it's not ok but need reassurance about how you feel, as if those two things were separate from one another...just something to think about. Do you often not trust your feelings around him and his behaviour?

Anyways, sorry you had to go through that, yuk

lenalemonade · 09/01/2024 21:03

Gather up your lovely children and run away now -filthy disgusting pig .Sitting there with sick on his leg

MrsKeats · 09/01/2024 21:06

Genuinely shocking behaviour.

Dotchange · 09/01/2024 21:09

He threw vomit at you.

OMG.

I’m assuming he’s done other inappropriate things to you?

LifeExperience · 09/01/2024 21:16

On what planet is it ok to throw vomit in someone's face? OF COURSE you are not being unreasonable! Get rid of this abusive, disgusting asshole!

MsDogLady · 09/01/2024 21:29

He’s a violent, nasty piece of work. This won’t have been his first episode of horrific behavior.

@kdmummyx, children who witness domestic violence are considered to be victims of abuse. Please tell him to leave.

B1rd · 09/01/2024 23:06

That is a total lack of disrespect from him to you.
LTB

HarrietStyles · 10/01/2024 07:27

I would never usually advise someone to LTB after hearing about just one incident in their marriage. But throwing sick in someone’s face is just so revolting, abusive, degrading and showing that he has so little respect or care for you ………. that I would honestly end the relationship purely just for this. And I would tell everyone who asked (especially his family and friends) the reason I ended the relationship was because he threw vomit in my face.
I’m also certain this is just one of a list of horrible things he has done to you. You don’t go from being a lovely husband, to something so degrading.